My youngest child is the only one at home. Good thing too, because she’s only 9 years old. That’s still a bit too young to be out on your own. I can admit to not being the best mom for the first four kids. I survived a very abusive marriage, only had a high school diploma, no real marketable skills and I wasn’t emotionally stable enough to be dealing with all the curve balls life was throwing at me. I admit, I made some really poor decisions way back when.
Life saw to it that I received another chance. My youngest is benefiting from that opportunity. Perhaps it was because I was an older mom when I had her at 35 instead of 20. Perhaps it was the fact I was in a relationship that I wasn’t belittled and physically abused or that I had a job, my own money and was able to support myself. There are so many factors at play in all of this.
What I do know, is my youngest is turning out OK. She uses her manners in public; which I am often complimented on. She doesn’t have her own iPhone because she’s always with a trusted adult, when she isn’t with myself or my husband. While I can’t say she isn’t spoiled, she is often reminded to be grateful for having a home, parents and some of the items she wants. She knows what respect is and uses it accordingly.
My youngest thinks of others. She will often clean her room and put books and toys aside and ask me to find new homes for them. While we often donate to thrift stores, she will request I give her things to kids who don’t have toys like hers. She is generally happy in nature, is independent, open-minded, smart, whitty (that’s gonna bite me one day), and thinks on her feet. She loves animals and currently would like to be a veterinarian.
While there have been many people who have sat in judgement of my decisions, they haven’t lived what I have lived through. I was no angel, but I certainly didn’t deserve what I have lived through. I can say I have learned and grown from what I consider my previous life. It’s been a long journey and there is still plenty of road left for me to travel.