Last night as I was drifting off to sleep, I reminded myself to wish my sister a Happy Birthday in the morning. When I awoke, I had a “Hangout” (Google’s version of “chat”) message from a friend, who I originally met through my sister.
He was sweet enough to let me know he was thinking of my family today, as it’s my sister’s birthday. I cried. I wasn’t prepared to see that anyone else had remembered or that they would reach out to me before I mentioned it. My sister, as much of a pain in the ass that she could be (as only her sister would know), truly touched the lives of many people. It’s a great way to be remembered.
Her death was one of the reasons I stopped using my other Facebook page, which had a lot of military affiliations on it. In fact, I didn’t use Facebook for several months. It was no longer important. Kathi was such a supporter of our vets and gave me such support while I supported active duty, it just didn’t seem right to continue on. I couldn’t face her friends, whom I’d had become friends with. It wasn’t the same without her; it still isn’t.
Par for the course, it just hit me how I coped today. I couldn’t bring myself to do much of anything but sleep for the majority of this morning and afternoon. I did some chores and saw my family off for the evening. Everyone is gone from the house now, and it’s just me. There’s not a whole lot on television tonight, so I was browsing Netflix. I came across “Merlin”. Sure, why not? I’m not super into fantasy, but I’ve always liked that which surrounded Merlin and Camelot.
Cleaning up the kitchen, I smiled. Kathi LOVED fantasy. She was big into fairies, Lord of the Rings, Dungeons and Dragons, etc. I’m no longer watching tv, but I am leaving the show on. That’s our bond for tonight: the Fantasy realm.
Happy Birthday, Sis!