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Who Can I Trigger?

Published February 16, 2018 by lynn k scott

Trigger, that’s not a word I usually use.  Why?  I feel it’s a word for the younger generation.  I don’t care if you a Generation X, Y, Z or Millennial.  Your character speaks more than the year you were born.  That being said, this blog will probably “trigger” a few of the younger and less conservative followers.  If you don’t follow this blog or know me personally (and some people do), then you should know one of my favorite sayings is, “I’m not a bakery and I don’t sugar coat what needs saying”.  So in the infamous words of Graham Allen….”Heeeeere we go!”

I consider myself an ‘old-school’ mom.  I am the mother of five children; with one child under 18-years old.  I am not a perfect mom.  I made A LOT of mistakes with my older children (another story; another time).  However, I am hell bent on correcting some of those past mistakes with my youngest daughter.

I live in California.  It would be an AMAZING state if not for all the liberals and illegals (not undocumented – ILLEGAL) that are here.  I don’t placate the “entitled ideology” that far to many young adults and their children seem to have.  I have conservative values but also feel I help those in need when I can.

That being said, my take on parenting:  You are NOT there to be a friend to your child.  You are the PARENT!  Rules and accountability are first and foremost. If you think your child is your BFF, he/she is NOT!  They are a child in need of guidance, enforced rules, etc.  That friend you are looking for will be there when adulthood is reached.  For now, focus on raising good kids.  “NO” is not a four-letter word and your kids need to hear it.

I love my daughter with all my heart.  She is spoiled rotten; I admit this.  However, there is a point where she knows what is right and wrong.  Is she allowed to do whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it?  HECK NO!  She is given chores that are to be completed. She used to get an allowance.  When she got a phone, the monthly amount equaled her allowance, no more allowance.  The phone is routinely checked and no downloads without consent.  She gets called out when she gets too sassy.  Respect is a key role to raising kids.  She has manners:  Yes, please.  No, thank you.  Excuse me, ma’am.  She is being raised as a child of Christ.  Ooooh, I went there:  religion.  Yup, I sure did.  I honestly believe, if more people had God in their lives, this world would be a much better place.

I have rarely spanked my youngest.  Why, because rules were set early and more importantly, they were enforced.  My daughter in on the verge of becoming a teenager.  While her hormones are kicking in and sometimes she gets called out a bit more on her at-home behavior, I don’t foresee her being one of “typical teens”.  If she ever went that route, my house would be spotless, because nothing makes you think more about what you’ve done than a few good hours of manual labor.  Has it come to that?  Not even close.  Is it an option (if need be); you bet it is!

Is she allowed to wear make-up?  Nope.  She gets to wait til she is 15.  I allow lip gloss and that’s it for now.  Why?  She’s 12!  She doesn’t need makeup.  A cashier at Ulta even said, “maybe next year she can add mascara”.  Sorry, not happening.  There’s no reason to push her to become older than she is.

Is she allowed to wear ripped jeans, shirts that show cleavage, run around unsupervised with her friends?  Nope!  She may not dress ultra-conservative (she’s not going to a nunnery after all), but she knows what is appropriate.  Has she ever tried to get to get away with pushing the clothing envelope?  Of course.  Then, I tell her to go back upstairs and change.  You know what?  She does.  Why, because she has been taught to listen.  Silly me.  I know the parents of her friends.  Sleepover or movie outing?  I speak with the other parents to make sure we are on the same page.  Get involved!  It’s what you should be doing.

My daughter is also at the age we can cover social topics.  What is appropriate for certain situations.  What would would be the consequences for acting like a fool in public?  Or blowing a potential job interview because your friends or mall time is more important?  How about wanting excess clothing or shoes?  I am proud she gives the appropriate responses.

We have covered race, in a variety of instances.  She’s a bi-racial child who isn’t allowed to use that as a reason something did/did not happen.  There are far too many successful, minority people, to let race stand in their way.  I am proud to say, my daughter doesn’t see color.  She will be anyone’s friend as long as they are respectful and are willing to chat.  Her cultural heritage is important; but she’s an American first.

Oh yea, and we say the Pledge of Allegiance in our home too.  We stand, quietly, with hand over our heart, anytime we hear the National Anthem.  We support the 2nd Amendment. My daughter will be visiting a gun range soon to learn weapon safety and how to shoot.  Take a guess at what I think about gun reform.  I may not own any weapons (currently), but I sure as heck could care less what over-paid, non-working, liberal Democrats think “we the people” are entitled to.

Do you know, my daughter already has the mentality that she will need to get a job, as a teen, to pay for the extras she deems important to her?  Do you know, she’s not dreading that? Why?  She has been taught from an early age:  you work for what you want.  Nothing is given to you and further more, you shouldn’t expect it would be.

I don’t care what someone’s education is.  You work hard and you make progress.  If it’s not within your means, you don’t get to have it.  I wish more people would understand this concept.

So my mini-rant about spoiled, self-centered, entitled parents/children is over.  I believe this country needs to get back to a Christian-based, conservative way of life.  Respect, a hard work ethic and caring for your community and country is needed.  If you are upset about this post, perhaps you might want to re-evaluate why you are now “triggered”.

 

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She’s going to be a veg-head

Published February 9, 2018 by lynn k scott

My 12-year old daughter came to me the other night and asked if she could become a vegetarian.  I was not as surprised as my husband, because I have been watching her eating habits (and I buy her food).

After asking her reasoning for wanting to, discussing the foods she would be giving up and making sure she would increase certain foods, to which she consented to, I agreed.  I was a vegetarian for a decade, at one point, so I would be able to help her make sound dietary decisions.

Her dad is less than a happy camper.  I blame it on his carnivorous side.  He gave me grief the entire time we were dating and even after we were married, about not eating meat.  He forgets, I would make dual meals; for him and myself.  He is also worried she will be picked on when she doesn’t eat the same foods her friends eat.  I give her friends more credit than he apparently is.  This is his only baby girl and I think he’s not ready for her to grow up and make more decisions on her own.

That being said, I also took her new endeavor as a way to add it to her homeschool life.  It’s great for nutrition, label-reading, discussions on ingredients, proper food combining, recipe research and essays.  I give her so much credit and am so proud of her.  She is taking this seriously.  I often get calls/texts at work telling me about a new website she’s been to regarding being a vegetarian.  She’s excited to share what she’s found.

I have told her how proud I am of her.  I loved being a veg-head.  I reiterated several times, that in this dietary journey, if she’s not willing to eat the proper foods, I will not allow her to be a full vegetarian.  I have expanded my dietary palate, over the years, which will provide additional knowledge for my daughter.

While I doubt I will ever go back to being 100% vegetarian, I welcome this change to bring more vegetarian dishes to our table (same meat dishes for the hubby) and see how she does.  Who knows, she may choose to stick with this; only time will tell.

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