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Who Can I Trigger?

Published February 16, 2018 by lynn k scott

Trigger, that’s not a word I usually use.  Why?  I feel it’s a word for the younger generation.  I don’t care if you a Generation X, Y, Z or Millennial.  Your character speaks more than the year you were born.  That being said, this blog will probably “trigger” a few of the younger and less conservative followers.  If you don’t follow this blog or know me personally (and some people do), then you should know one of my favorite sayings is, “I’m not a bakery and I don’t sugar coat what needs saying”.  So in the infamous words of Graham Allen….”Heeeeere we go!”

I consider myself an ‘old-school’ mom.  I am the mother of five children; with one child under 18-years old.  I am not a perfect mom.  I made A LOT of mistakes with my older children (another story; another time).  However, I am hell bent on correcting some of those past mistakes with my youngest daughter.

I live in California.  It would be an AMAZING state if not for all the liberals and illegals (not undocumented – ILLEGAL) that are here.  I don’t placate the “entitled ideology” that far to many young adults and their children seem to have.  I have conservative values but also feel I help those in need when I can.

That being said, my take on parenting:  You are NOT there to be a friend to your child.  You are the PARENT!  Rules and accountability are first and foremost. If you think your child is your BFF, he/she is NOT!  They are a child in need of guidance, enforced rules, etc.  That friend you are looking for will be there when adulthood is reached.  For now, focus on raising good kids.  “NO” is not a four-letter word and your kids need to hear it.

I love my daughter with all my heart.  She is spoiled rotten; I admit this.  However, there is a point where she knows what is right and wrong.  Is she allowed to do whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it?  HECK NO!  She is given chores that are to be completed. She used to get an allowance.  When she got a phone, the monthly amount equaled her allowance, no more allowance.  The phone is routinely checked and no downloads without consent.  She gets called out when she gets too sassy.  Respect is a key role to raising kids.  She has manners:  Yes, please.  No, thank you.  Excuse me, ma’am.  She is being raised as a child of Christ.  Ooooh, I went there:  religion.  Yup, I sure did.  I honestly believe, if more people had God in their lives, this world would be a much better place.

I have rarely spanked my youngest.  Why, because rules were set early and more importantly, they were enforced.  My daughter in on the verge of becoming a teenager.  While her hormones are kicking in and sometimes she gets called out a bit more on her at-home behavior, I don’t foresee her being one of “typical teens”.  If she ever went that route, my house would be spotless, because nothing makes you think more about what you’ve done than a few good hours of manual labor.  Has it come to that?  Not even close.  Is it an option (if need be); you bet it is!

Is she allowed to wear make-up?  Nope.  She gets to wait til she is 15.  I allow lip gloss and that’s it for now.  Why?  She’s 12!  She doesn’t need makeup.  A cashier at Ulta even said, “maybe next year she can add mascara”.  Sorry, not happening.  There’s no reason to push her to become older than she is.

Is she allowed to wear ripped jeans, shirts that show cleavage, run around unsupervised with her friends?  Nope!  She may not dress ultra-conservative (she’s not going to a nunnery after all), but she knows what is appropriate.  Has she ever tried to get to get away with pushing the clothing envelope?  Of course.  Then, I tell her to go back upstairs and change.  You know what?  She does.  Why, because she has been taught to listen.  Silly me.  I know the parents of her friends.  Sleepover or movie outing?  I speak with the other parents to make sure we are on the same page.  Get involved!  It’s what you should be doing.

My daughter is also at the age we can cover social topics.  What is appropriate for certain situations.  What would would be the consequences for acting like a fool in public?  Or blowing a potential job interview because your friends or mall time is more important?  How about wanting excess clothing or shoes?  I am proud she gives the appropriate responses.

We have covered race, in a variety of instances.  She’s a bi-racial child who isn’t allowed to use that as a reason something did/did not happen.  There are far too many successful, minority people, to let race stand in their way.  I am proud to say, my daughter doesn’t see color.  She will be anyone’s friend as long as they are respectful and are willing to chat.  Her cultural heritage is important; but she’s an American first.

Oh yea, and we say the Pledge of Allegiance in our home too.  We stand, quietly, with hand over our heart, anytime we hear the National Anthem.  We support the 2nd Amendment. My daughter will be visiting a gun range soon to learn weapon safety and how to shoot.  Take a guess at what I think about gun reform.  I may not own any weapons (currently), but I sure as heck could care less what over-paid, non-working, liberal Democrats think “we the people” are entitled to.

Do you know, my daughter already has the mentality that she will need to get a job, as a teen, to pay for the extras she deems important to her?  Do you know, she’s not dreading that? Why?  She has been taught from an early age:  you work for what you want.  Nothing is given to you and further more, you shouldn’t expect it would be.

I don’t care what someone’s education is.  You work hard and you make progress.  If it’s not within your means, you don’t get to have it.  I wish more people would understand this concept.

So my mini-rant about spoiled, self-centered, entitled parents/children is over.  I believe this country needs to get back to a Christian-based, conservative way of life.  Respect, a hard work ethic and caring for your community and country is needed.  If you are upset about this post, perhaps you might want to re-evaluate why you are now “triggered”.



She’s going to be a veg-head

Published February 9, 2018 by lynn k scott

My 12-year old daughter came to me the other night and asked if she could become a vegetarian.  I was not as surprised as my husband, because I have been watching her eating habits (and I buy her food).

After asking her reasoning for wanting to, discussing the foods she would be giving up and making sure she would increase certain foods, to which she consented to, I agreed.  I was a vegetarian for a decade, at one point, so I would be able to help her make sound dietary decisions.

Her dad is less than a happy camper.  I blame it on his carnivorous side.  He gave me grief the entire time we were dating and even after we were married, about not eating meat.  He forgets, I would make dual meals; for him and myself.  He is also worried she will be picked on when she doesn’t eat the same foods her friends eat.  I give her friends more credit than he apparently is.  This is his only baby girl and I think he’s not ready for her to grow up and make more decisions on her own.

That being said, I also took her new endeavor as a way to add it to her homeschool life.  It’s great for nutrition, label-reading, discussions on ingredients, proper food combining, recipe research and essays.  I give her so much credit and am so proud of her.  She is taking this seriously.  I often get calls/texts at work telling me about a new website she’s been to regarding being a vegetarian.  She’s excited to share what she’s found.

I have told her how proud I am of her.  I loved being a veg-head.  I reiterated several times, that in this dietary journey, if she’s not willing to eat the proper foods, I will not allow her to be a full vegetarian.  I have expanded my dietary palate, over the years, which will provide additional knowledge for my daughter.

While I doubt I will ever go back to being 100% vegetarian, I welcome this change to bring more vegetarian dishes to our table (same meat dishes for the hubby) and see how she does.  Who knows, she may choose to stick with this; only time will tell.

Angels Walk Among Us

Published January 5, 2018 by lynn k scott

I honestly believe that angels walk among us and they take the form of friends.

A few weeks ago, I was lost.  I was having daily meltdowns regarding how I am going to pay for my cancer treatment and medications.  I was shutting down and beginning to withdraw.

I had a long-time friend invite me over to her home after church.  I was such in a bad place, I didn’t want to go.  I told her I would think about it.  She tempted me with seeing their Siberian Husky.  I have unofficially adopted him…well adopted him in the sense he is my main focus when I get to visit him; and his owners.

I relented and asked when we should be at her house.  I grabbed a toy for Kona (the Siberian).  I love that dog; even if he’s not mine.  I get through church, take a much-needed nap (thanks to my meds) and woke up in time to leave.

Standard greetings took place and then it was time to see Kona; who is normally outside – he loves it outside.  I walk out, hear a guy’s voice, who I just assumed was my friend’s boyfriend.  When I say, I go to see the dog, I’m not kidding.  I was so dog-focused, I failed to realize my son was the one holding onto the dog’s leash.  Right next to him, was my daughter-in-law and granddaughter.          20171231_165213.jpg

It’s been six years since I’ve seen my son.   He’s in the Army, so visits are few and far between and he’s stationed across the country.  Another one of my friends used air miles that would expire before she could use them and flew them all out to see me.  I had yet to meet my daughter-in-law or meet my (now) eight-month old granddaughter.

To say tears were flowing would be an understatement.  I was beyond surprised.  Several people were in on it.  They kept me going til the surprise took place.  They knew how difficult life had become and brought a beacon of light to brighten up my world.

I have had the pleasure of having my oldest and youngest together for three weeks.  We did a few low-key tourist things, but mostly stayed near home.  I still have had to work while they have been here.

Walking through my front door and to be greeted by my smiling grandbaby brings joy like nothing else.  Cooking dinner every night has been great.  My daughter-in-law LOVES mashed potatoes!  It may seem trivial, but my husband is Asian and we eat a lot of rice.  I had another person in my corner for side dishes.  My son did good marrying her.  LOL

My granddaughter celebrated her first Christmas in my home.  My daughter and son were able to celebrate their birthdays together (New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day).  I was able to bring the “kids” to church and introduce them to my church family.  My son isn’t big on attending church, but he did so for his mom.

I will be sad when I have to take them to the airport tomorrow.  Tonight will be the last night that I will sit on the sofa, holding the baby, and giving her a bottle.  She can hold it herself, but each evening, we’ve had our little bonding time.  I will miss it greatly!

I am blessed that I have angels walking among us and I get the privilege of calling them friends.


Movie Review: Justice League

Published November 22, 2017 by lynn k scott

Let me premise this review with I am not a comic-reading individual.  My knowledge of the Justice League characters come from Saturday morning cartoons (35+ years ago) and various movies that I have seen over the years.

That being said, last night I took my 11-year old daughter to see the Justice League movie.  It wasn’t a movie I would have gone to on my own.  I’ve never been a comic book fan or even cared about the different aspects of the progression of say, Superman or Batman.

Without having multiple backstories, character knowledge or development, we enjoyed the movie.  I won’t go into too many details, as I won’t be a spoiler to those who have yet to see the movie.

I would actually give the movie 4 out of 5 stars.  Hold your horses comic lovers.  My rating is based on the following criteria:  My 11-year old LOVED the movie, there was humor and lots of action.  The special effects were well done (imo).  There was even a point, some aspects of the special effects reminded me of a comic book.

The Flash was a socially-awkward teenager, who brought hilarity to his role.  His facial expressions and comments really added some great humor.

Wonder Woman was my daughter’s favorite.  There was a scene with the Amazon’s fighting the villain, and my daughter leaned over to whisper, “Those are my kind of women”.  Ok, so fictional women of great strength and capabilities empowered my daughter to where she could appreciate them; I’ll take that as a win.

My favorite was Aquaman.  Considering my only previous reference to him was a cartoon, he was given a major “upgrade”.  A buffed, tattooed, long-haired Atlantean, played by Jason Momoa, was what got me through this movie!  I’m not sure why it wasn’t called, “Aquaman & Friends”.  I digress…back to the review….

Cyborg, Superman and Batman were ok; nothing special to report on them.

The reason the movie didn’t get 5 stars, was it did drag a bit; even with all the action-filled comedy.  The other reason was, Ben Affleck is a believable Bruce Wayne, but he really isn’t a good Batman.  I was never a fan of all the Batman movies and the endless, changing Batmans.  I saw the first Batman, with Michael Keaton, and that’s good enough for me.  There’s just no pizzazz.  If it wasn’t for the Justice League having Batman in the comics and whatever rivalry there was between him and Superman, the movie could probably exist without him.

The other minor issue I had was Diane Lane as Superman’s mother.  She’s a good actress, and even though she’s aged to where she could play the part of a mom, she’ll always be, ‘Cherry Vance’, from the “Outsiders”.  I know most of this movie’s demographic, has no idea of “The Outsiders, primarily because it was made before they were born, but it was a small distraction to me.

Overall, it was enjoyable.  The storyline they used was acceptable, to non-comic following fans.  Add the the fact we paid less than $8.00 for two tickets, with AT&T’s, “Bring a Friend” Tuesdays, the popcorn was 50% off, we had a nice night for a mother and daughter making memories over Marvel’s, Justice League.

Homeschool Happiness

Published November 21, 2017 by lynn k scott

Last night, we continued my daughter’s studies.  You know, history, science, etc.  We started a new mini-lesson on, “Poison Tongue, Healing Tongue”.

I admit it, I’m a bit of a geek, nerd, what have you, when it comes to homeschooling material.  I get excited about new books or curricula.  This in turn, elicits eye-rolls and my daughter telling me I am weird. It’s ok, I can live with that.  In part, because it’s true!

I recently purchased a new history set, called, “From Adam to Us”.  It’s a Christian publication and I am in LOVE with it so far.  It begins in the beginning with God creating the world.  The exercises has my daughter reviewing chapter vocabulary words doing exercises based on the reading.

The book in general is an easy read.  There are lots of colorful pictures, scripture mixed into the text and I find it relaxing to read.  Of course, I’m coming from a completely different perspective than a student would, as they have to do the work.

There are also additional books in the set, such as a timeline book, a literature book and maps.  Even though we’ve just begun using the books, I am liking what I’m seeing; a lot!

In additional to history, we covered scripture readings on how the Bible refers to the tongue.  How the tongue can be used to hurt or heal, depending how we choose to use it.  I admit, I have a sharp tongue and sarcasm and I have become all-to-familiar with each other.

In addition to trying to raise my daughter, I viewed this mini-course as a guide that could assist both of us in choosing our words a bit more carefully and use them in a better way than we have been.  No matter what our ages, we all have room for growth and improvement.

My daughter is extremely perceptive, add tween hormones and just a general kids don’t want to do school and selecting the proper way to respond isn’t always her forte.  I found the verses to be genuine and that there were multiple opportunities to discuss what we were reading and how it applies to us.

Lastly, we turned to Netflix for science.  We watched a scientist go up against a chef and they both made the same dishes.  Seeing a steak cooked the traditional way and then seeing how liquid nitrogen played a roll in cooking a stay was fascinating.  Did you know you can create a clear tomato soup that still tastes like tomato soup?  I didn’t until seeing this show.

No matter which subject we discussed, my daughter was learning.  She was engaged.  She was participating.  Not to mention, she’ll have something to share with her friends next time they get together.

As challenging as homeschooling can be, it’s a challenge that’s well worth the effort!

Cancer Journey: Part 2

Published November 6, 2017 by lynn k scott

I’ve been on oral chemotherapy for a week now.  I have been lucky not to experience many side effects.  The worst, so far, has been nausea and fatigue.  Those who know me, know I am always on the go or doing something.  Friends ask me if I know what the word relax means.

My anger has subsided a bit.  I am still less than pleased with my oncology team.  However, I am doing my best to see the positives in all this.  Positives with cancer?  Seriously?  Yup!

I truly believe God has a plan for me; for all of us, really.  I have known so much suffering, loss and tragedy.  What’s a stage 3 cancer diagnosis added to all that, right?

I was speaking to our pastor’s wife yesterday and shared how I recently thought of a positive to having cancer:  it’s brought my oldest and I closer.  One could say we’ve had a tumultuous relationship.  We were having a rough patch prior to my diagnosis.  We had only recently started speaking again.

Once I told him about the diagnosis, our relationship improved.  It reaffirmed how precious life is and how it’s not promised to anyone.  So, if cancer brought us closer together, than I am grateful.

Another positive is, as a friend pointed out when she heard the news, this disease would bring me closer to God.  She was right.  This struggle is not mine alone.  He is with me through this.  It’s my job to trust in Him and give Him control of the situation.  He has guided me to a church with very supportive and caring people.  He will stay beside me on this journey.

I am also learning to rest and pay attention to my health.  Currently, I have energy for about half a day.  I am still working a full-time job, homeschooling my daughter every evening and running a household.  Is my house as clean as I want it?  Heaven’s no!  Truth be told, it’s driving me nuts to have clutter and not having certain areas spotless.  Will we survive?  Yup!

My daughter and husband have taken on a few of “mom’s chores”.  They are aware I just can’t do it all or that it might be postponed if i need to take care of it.  I am taking time to spend a extra hour or two in bed on the weekends.  I am going to sleep hours before the clock approaches midnight.

Today was the first day I had to wear a mask at work, as my immune system becomes more compromised.  I was NOT happy having to do this.  Yet, a friend suggested having my artist daughter (who’s 11), draw happy faces and butterflies on my masks for me.  I’m going to give her a few to try out.  She’ll get to be expressive, I get to count this as art for homeschool and I should have some “designer” masks to make this journey a bit more bearable.

So as much as I hashtag, #cancersucks, there are silver linings to be seen.  You just need to know where to look.

Visiting the 1950s

Published October 17, 2017 by lynn k scott

Last night, for music and history, we used our smart TV and did a time-warp to the 1950s.  Since we have the technology, why not use it right?  In addition to the music, we discussed the clothing of the era and segregation.  She hadn’t heard the term before.  Once I explained what it was, she responds with, “That’s racism!”  She also picked up on the fact, that if her father and I had met in the 1950s, we probably wouldn’t have been together; being I am white and he is Filipino.  We have done our best to teach our daughter color doesn’t define a person; their actions do.

First up, Elvis Presley.  We discussed “Elvis the Pelvis”, the Ed Sullivan Show and how he was only filmed from the waist up.  We watched a clip from “Jailhouse Rock“.  My daughter giggled.  She’s been exposed to Elvis before because he is the King of Rock ‘n Roll and I’m a huge fan.  We can also thank reruns of “Full House” and “Uncle Jesse” for her Elvis knowledge.

From Elvis, we headed over to watch Bill Haley and the Comments.  When it was time to “Rock Around The Clock“, the lil miss jumped up off the couch and shouted, “dance with me!”  She was having a blast.  That last until my dog decided my daughter was getting far too much attention he was going to cut in on our fun.

From there we discussed a variety of musical artists and jumped over to watch Ritchie Valens in action.  We discussed his, Buddy Holly’s and the Big Bopper’s untimely deaths.  While I showed her pictures of the real Ritchie, we watched the clip of Lou Diamond Phillips portraying Ritchie and singing La Bamba.   We discussed how his name was changed to a more “mainstream” name for the times.

Our last music clips were courtesy of the Everly Brothers.  “All I Have To Do Is Dream” and “Cathy’s Clown” were the two selections we watched.  Of the clips my daughter watched, surprisingly, “All I Have To Do Is Dream” was her favorite.

I know “Cathy’s Clown” was from 1960, but it was my sister’s Kathi’s favorite song when she was young (because it had her name in it) and it’s a great segway to our next trip through the ages…

Get ready for the British invasion, the beginning of “boy bands” (thanks to the Beatles), add a little peace, love and hippies and we’re all set to discuss the 1960s.




Luke 23:43 Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

Photo by Matthew C Seufer - Oak Grove Baptist Church- Elgin,South Carolina USA June 10,2013 (Page 14 in the Inspirational book "Windows From Heaven")


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