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Who Can I Trigger?

Published February 16, 2018 by lynn k scott

Trigger, that’s not a word I usually use.  Why?  I feel it’s a word for the younger generation.  I don’t care if you a Generation X, Y, Z or Millennial.  Your character speaks more than the year you were born.  That being said, this blog will probably “trigger” a few of the younger and less conservative followers.  If you don’t follow this blog or know me personally (and some people do), then you should know one of my favorite sayings is, “I’m not a bakery and I don’t sugar coat what needs saying”.  So in the infamous words of Graham Allen….”Heeeeere we go!”

I consider myself an ‘old-school’ mom.  I am the mother of five children; with one child under 18-years old.  I am not a perfect mom.  I made A LOT of mistakes with my older children (another story; another time).  However, I am hell bent on correcting some of those past mistakes with my youngest daughter.

I live in California.  It would be an AMAZING state if not for all the liberals and illegals (not undocumented – ILLEGAL) that are here.  I don’t placate the “entitled ideology” that far to many young adults and their children seem to have.  I have conservative values but also feel I help those in need when I can.

That being said, my take on parenting:  You are NOT there to be a friend to your child.  You are the PARENT!  Rules and accountability are first and foremost. If you think your child is your BFF, he/she is NOT!  They are a child in need of guidance, enforced rules, etc.  That friend you are looking for will be there when adulthood is reached.  For now, focus on raising good kids.  “NO” is not a four-letter word and your kids need to hear it.

I love my daughter with all my heart.  She is spoiled rotten; I admit this.  However, there is a point where she knows what is right and wrong.  Is she allowed to do whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it?  HECK NO!  She is given chores that are to be completed. She used to get an allowance.  When she got a phone, the monthly amount equaled her allowance, no more allowance.  The phone is routinely checked and no downloads without consent.  She gets called out when she gets too sassy.  Respect is a key role to raising kids.  She has manners:  Yes, please.  No, thank you.  Excuse me, ma’am.  She is being raised as a child of Christ.  Ooooh, I went there:  religion.  Yup, I sure did.  I honestly believe, if more people had God in their lives, this world would be a much better place.

I have rarely spanked my youngest.  Why, because rules were set early and more importantly, they were enforced.  My daughter in on the verge of becoming a teenager.  While her hormones are kicking in and sometimes she gets called out a bit more on her at-home behavior, I don’t foresee her being one of “typical teens”.  If she ever went that route, my house would be spotless, because nothing makes you think more about what you’ve done than a few good hours of manual labor.  Has it come to that?  Not even close.  Is it an option (if need be); you bet it is!

Is she allowed to wear make-up?  Nope.  She gets to wait til she is 15.  I allow lip gloss and that’s it for now.  Why?  She’s 12!  She doesn’t need makeup.  A cashier at Ulta even said, “maybe next year she can add mascara”.  Sorry, not happening.  There’s no reason to push her to become older than she is.

Is she allowed to wear ripped jeans, shirts that show cleavage, run around unsupervised with her friends?  Nope!  She may not dress ultra-conservative (she’s not going to a nunnery after all), but she knows what is appropriate.  Has she ever tried to get to get away with pushing the clothing envelope?  Of course.  Then, I tell her to go back upstairs and change.  You know what?  She does.  Why, because she has been taught to listen.  Silly me.  I know the parents of her friends.  Sleepover or movie outing?  I speak with the other parents to make sure we are on the same page.  Get involved!  It’s what you should be doing.

My daughter is also at the age we can cover social topics.  What is appropriate for certain situations.  What would would be the consequences for acting like a fool in public?  Or blowing a potential job interview because your friends or mall time is more important?  How about wanting excess clothing or shoes?  I am proud she gives the appropriate responses.

We have covered race, in a variety of instances.  She’s a bi-racial child who isn’t allowed to use that as a reason something did/did not happen.  There are far too many successful, minority people, to let race stand in their way.  I am proud to say, my daughter doesn’t see color.  She will be anyone’s friend as long as they are respectful and are willing to chat.  Her cultural heritage is important; but she’s an American first.

Oh yea, and we say the Pledge of Allegiance in our home too.  We stand, quietly, with hand over our heart, anytime we hear the National Anthem.  We support the 2nd Amendment. My daughter will be visiting a gun range soon to learn weapon safety and how to shoot.  Take a guess at what I think about gun reform.  I may not own any weapons (currently), but I sure as heck could care less what over-paid, non-working, liberal Democrats think “we the people” are entitled to.

Do you know, my daughter already has the mentality that she will need to get a job, as a teen, to pay for the extras she deems important to her?  Do you know, she’s not dreading that? Why?  She has been taught from an early age:  you work for what you want.  Nothing is given to you and further more, you shouldn’t expect it would be.

I don’t care what someone’s education is.  You work hard and you make progress.  If it’s not within your means, you don’t get to have it.  I wish more people would understand this concept.

So my mini-rant about spoiled, self-centered, entitled parents/children is over.  I believe this country needs to get back to a Christian-based, conservative way of life.  Respect, a hard work ethic and caring for your community and country is needed.  If you are upset about this post, perhaps you might want to re-evaluate why you are now “triggered”.



A Return to Homeschool

Published April 24, 2017 by lynn k scott

Discussions, research, contemplation and prayer, it’s been decided my daughter will return to homeschool for next year.  While I LOVE the small, private, Christian school she is in, we financially can no longer afford to send her.  The money spent on the school could be allocated to other bills that won’t take a backseat.

Sixth grade, junior high, here we come!  I refuse to jump on the “Middle School” bandwagon.  It was good enough to be called junior high for me, that’s what her current school calls it and that’s what we’ll continue to call it.

I briefly contemplated using a charter school because I could have received a stipend for educational-related expenditures from the district.  While charters are supposed to allow more flexibility, for a public school, the down side is, they are still a public school.  I became very upset just filling out the application.  That seems silly, right?  Perhaps.

The last two years, we have had this wonderful school.  There’s no PC-ness in play.  They ask for the mother’s and father’s signature on the application.  While, I know there are many, many types of families, I admire they still acknowledge parents.

While filling out the charter application, it asked for the parents’ name.  Then it asked who the child resides with.  Why was “parents”, “mother” or “father” not even options? The option available:  “Guardian 1”, “Guardian 2” and “Guardian 3” as the primary choices.  What?!  The nuclear family, while it has taken on some changes, still does exist.

When I brought this up to the charter, I received the approved response, “the options are within state guidelines”.  Ah yes, good ole’ California and the front-runner of “don’t offend anyone”.  I’m sorry but if the state of California is overseeing my daughter’s education, they should at the very least know that a “parent” and “guardian” are actually different words.

I was a guardian to my nieces for a year.  I didn’t give birth or adopt them.  I was their aunt.  They lived with me.  I made their important decisions.  I fed and clothed them.  I was their guardian.

Over the course of several evenings, unable to sleep, I kept researching charter schools and their requirements.  In addition to their inability to accept parents as a legitimate term, they follow Common Core.  Not to get into this educational nightmare, but let’s just say I’m not a fan and I won’t play nice with the district if they were insistent on how an answer was obtained vs if it was the correct answer.  That’s not how the adult world works and that’s what I’m raising; a child to an adult.

That being said, I reached peace when I realized, we will return to a Christian-based curriculum.  Where it’s acceptable to have my daughter’s homework include Biblical lessons, morality, and ethical responses in it.  Once that decision was made, the decision to return to homeschool became so much simpler.

I know homeschooling isn’t for everyone.  I know the state has to have some boundaries. Yet, they have overstepped and are reaching for what they aren’t entitled to.  My daughter can learn to think critically without being tested excessively just to “prove a point” or “be another score for the district”.

I am grateful for the ability to be able to register as a private school.  To teach my child in a modern way, yet have a Christian foundation.  I am excited to see what the next school year will bring us.  I’m sure my daughter will continue her spiritual and emotional growth, while on her educational journey.

Christian School

Published January 6, 2016 by lynn k scott

The end of October 2015 was a transition for our homeschooling family. Circumstances change and we change with it.  For our homeschool, it meant my daughter attending a brick and mortar school.  This time, it would be a very small, private, Christian school.

While I am not a devout Christian, I do have my faith.  I know religion can be a “hot topic” with a lot of people.  While I’m of the Protestant faith, the school we chose didn’t come off “preachy”.

My daughter has Bible classes, memorizes a verse every week and attends Chapel on Friday.  I was teaching her Bible in our homeschool and this new approach was fine by me.  She is surrounded by positive teachers and it’s definitely not like the Catholic schools of decades past, walking around with rulers, waiting to slap at a child’s hands.

The Christmas program included traditional Christmas songs; not “holiday” songs.  Merry Christmas was said without reservation.  My daughter still sings parts of those songs she recently learned, even though Christmas is over for this year.

The lil miss frequently hums, “Amazing Grace”, while setting the dinner table.  I find these new qualities comforting.  I like that she is comfortable enough to express herself.

On our drive to school, she recounted the story of Noah and the Flood, as she was observing all the standing water on the farms that we were passing.

One night, my daughter threw me for a bit of a curve ball on our commute home.  She watched a car cut me off.  I did utter some not-s0-nice words when it happened.  As we passed the offending car, she looked out her window at the driver (who couldn’t see her) and said, “even though you have sinned, God will still forgive you”.

WOW!  I felt a bit guilty at my response to the other driver when my daughter was showing her grace.

For me personally, I believe this was a sign for my daughter to be attending this school.  It’s brought a peace and calm to our lives; for which I am grateful.

I think homeschooling is a great option (one of the best) and wish I had the opportunity to do so again, this private school, really is the next-best thing.  I pray the public school system one day is overhauled, common-core is banished, being “PC” becomes a memory, saying the Pledge of Allegiance every morning returns to the classroom and children are reunited with learning.

It’s time for a change

Published October 23, 2015 by lynn k scott

Could be it be true?  I’m back to blogging?

Yes, yes….it’s true.  No need for excitement.  I apologize for my disappearing act.  So much going on and so little time to blog while dealing with life.  Rest assured, I am here and I shall provide an exit blog should the time arise when I am no longer able to continue my ever-changing writing adventure.

So, as you can see, it’s time for a change.  This particular reference is in regards to our homeschooling journey.  After discussions with my daughter about her schooling preferences and her day and evening routines, we have made a change; hopefully for the better.

Starting on Monday, my lil miss will return to a brick and mortar school.  I still maintain my beliefs on the public school system and the shambles it’s in regarding quality education.  That being said, a private, Christian school has been located and appears to suit my daughter’s educational needs.

One, it’s not a public school and they don’t deal with Common Core (bonus points there).  Two, they have an American flag in each classroom and say the Pledge daily.  That might seem trivial to some, but it’s extremely important to this Army mom. Every school should be doing this, imo.  Three, she will have religion in her class.  While I am not overly religious, I find it important to have a foundation in faith; whatever that may mean to an individual.  Lastly, it’s a very small school.  My daughter will be the 10th child in her class.  The school holds K-8, but each grade only has one classroom.

For me, there’s a personal level and mirrors homeschooling, as close as possible, in a school environment.  Their goal is to teach during the day with no more than an hour’s homework per night, if at all.  Responsibility and accountability and coupled with the educational pursuit.

I was impressed when I inquired about the school, how they immediately invited me to come and take a tour.  I observed my daughter’s potential new class for 20 minutes and how I was able to have a private conversation with her potential new teacher.  I was impressed her tuition costs the same as what I was paying a friend to watch her during the day while I worked.

Change is scary but also necessary.  I have enjoyed homeschooling my daughter for the last two and a half years.  We will continue her art pursuit on our own.  She is nervous and excited to rejoin a brick and mortar school.  If this works out well, she will stay there through eighth grade.  At that point, we will see what charter schools are available.  If none meet our standards, then we can revisit homeschooling again.

The lil miss will still get the opportunity to hang out with her homeschool group friends.  We may not make every week’s meetup, but they have been a blessing the short time we’ve been involved with them and we’re glad to know we are still welcome to hang out when our schedule allows.

I firmly believe you cannot grow if you are not willing to change.  My daughter said this morning, her new school is a new door opening in her life.  How cannot I not be pleased with her acceptance of change?

Luke 23:43 Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

Photo by Matthew C Seufer - Oak Grove Baptist Church- Elgin,South Carolina USA June 10,2013 (Page 14 in the Inspirational book "Windows From Heaven")


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