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Poor Behavior

Published August 3, 2018 by lynn k scott

It’s no secret that one of the reasons I left Facebook was because of all the drama, keyboard warriors and utter nonsense that people felt they could get away with because they knew how to type to post nonsense in a shielded fashion on a social media platform.

One thing I like about WordPress is the community atmosphere it has; or normally does. It’s only happened a few times that I have had the unfortunate pleasure of dealing with a “keyboard warrior” (aka online bully; for lack of a better term).

I do my best not to leave unpleasant remarks when I comment on other people’s blogs. I rarely discuss politics because it’s such a trigger point for some people and they revert to whining children if they can’t conceive there’s a different point of view of their own.

Today was one of those days. I had made a c

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omment yesterday. Someone else responded today. While we had different viewpoints, we had an adult conversation.

Then “she” chimed in. The person who needed to stoop to name calling and “demonizing” a valid perspective on a situation. This person clearly didn’t understand all she was spouting.

I have worked in Human Resources before, and after, the ACA (Affordable Care Act). While, I am definitely not a fan (and we’re not going to discuss this topic further), I have seen what it has done compared to what was promised on paper. I have seen over 300 employees personally affected by the ACA changes that were implemented.

I personally, in case you didn’t know, have a life-threatening disease. I am all-to-familiar with how insurance works. What annual and prescription deductibles are. How employer-paid insurance works. I could go on, but it wouldn’t be productive.

With an online community, it’s helpful to believe everyone has the ability to behave appropriately. Name-calling; especially by adults is just unnecessary and speaks more about that person’s character than the person they are attempting to belittle.

I would implore you to monitor your posts and remove comments by those who refuse to behave properly instead of letting them act like school-yard bullies. Everyone has different experiences and different areas they are more knowledgeable about. Why not work as a community to have open discussions instead putting people down? Why not try to learn from each other? It may not solve anything directly or change a firm belief. However, it will leave the other party(ies) not feeling as if they did something wrong for engaging in a conversation. Isn’t that what we are here for? To learn about each other by reading about what we are going through, what we find important, what our experiences are?

Just my two cents…

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Simple Church

Published November 15, 2017 by lynn k scott

Our church is rebranding.  This is new for me, because growing up, we went to the same church my entire life and it never changed.  I even was married in that church.  With the rebranding, we are establishing ourself apart from another church that we have been getting confused with.  I think it’s a great idea.  Without change, there cannot be growth.  I am from a small country town.  Even though I moved to a city, I still like my church small, but we all have room for growth.

God’s message is simple.

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After years of searching for my “home church”, I have found it.  I’ve been at Simple Church for about six months now.  In that time, besides being allowed to drink all the coffee I could want, I have met people who are becoming like family.  I’ve even been asked to help with providing refreshments for fellowship after church.  This was a blessing, because I enjoy cooking and feeding others and providing a snack or meal, appeases that particular need.

Having moved 3,000 miles from where I used to call home, restarted my life, remarried, had another child, gone through some really difficult trials and now battling cancer, knowing there is a place, where I am accepted in my jeans, my tattoos and all my other short-comings, brings a sense of peace.

Every week, the message comes from the Bible. It’s straight-forward; can’t get any simpler than that.  Prayers, contemporary music and singing fills the room as well.  There’s a song, “Old Church Choir“, by Zach Williams that sums up my feelings.

If you’ve ever been to a church with a choir, you know they can project a lively happiness with an upbeat tempos and their voices.  You are drawn in, want to be part of and appreciate the energy they are providing.  Memories are created through the music.

Stepping into Simple Church gives me that feeling every week!  Even when I was brand new to the church, I was welcomed.  It just wasn’t an obligatory, “hello” by someone assigned to meet the ‘new people’.  It was a genuine welcoming and caring that you were there.

It’s a church where I feel comfortable bringing my daughter.  Having a tween child brings it’s own challenges.  Knowing she is making friends, likes the children and their parents and wants to go instead of fighting me not to, says a lot too.Simple church

If there are little ones to consider, there’s a nursery for them to play and relax in during the service.

All in all, if you are looking for a small, community-based church, that offers genuine caring and compassion, with what I like to call a ‘come as you are’ mentality, then Simple Church might be the place for you.

If you are in the Solano County area, come check out 10:00 a.m. service.  We’d love to meet you!

Diagnosis: The Big “C”

Published October 12, 2017 by lynn k scott

My blogging isn’t up to par as I have slacked off considerably with making sure I post at least once a day.

I grew tired of primary care physicians passing the buck, their staff refusing to schedule appointments (while in severe pain) because I wasn’t ‘nice enough’, being ignored when discussing symptoms or just regurgitating a previous ailment.  I took myself to the emergency room (at an expensive cost; considering my copay).

Well, I was right!  There was something wrong; seriously wrong.  When all the testing was said and done…a mass about five inches long, blocking 80% of my colon was discovered.  Major surgery was in my immediate future.

After a scheduling fiasco with the hospital, the surgery was finally completed.  The mass sent to pathology for testing.  A week later, the report was in:  Stage 3 colon cancer.  I had managed to convince myself the mass would be benign.  I recovered so quickly from surgery.  All was well again…silly me…I knew better than that!

Let’s recap (if you don’t follow my blog)….

  • Father:  Stomach cancer – Stage 4 (passes within 3 weeks of diagnosis)
  • Mother:  Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma (beats it – but passes for another reason)
  • Younger Sister:  Breast cancer – Stage 4 (passes within 9 months of diagnosis)

I now have joined the rest of my family.  There are only two of us left, out of the original five members in our immediate family.   Four out of five people in one family being diagnosed with cancer…what are the odds?  Don’t answer that!

If my faith wasn’t so strong, I’d be a complete basket case.  Have I shed a tear or two?  Of course!  You’d have to have a heart cold as ice not to have such a diagnosis elicit some type of emotion when learning you have cancer and stage 3; at that.  Truth be told, this is the calmest I’ve been about a major life event.  I know that’s God’s grace.

I know He has a plan for me.  I wish it didn’t involve this disease.  However, I have many friends and family praying for me.   I have found an amazing church that has been incredible in supporting me.  As it stands, I have a 57% chance, without any further treatment, the cancer is gone.  Treatment will increase those odds, as there isn’t a test to say I still have the cancer.

What hit me hardest?  Telling my older children, who watched their grandparents and aunt pass away, that their mom was now sick.  Then, telling my youngest, who only knew a little of what claimed her aunt, at the tender age of 37, her mom had a similar disease.

Most days I’m good.  Very tired as I am extremely anemic at this point.  Other days, I’m angry.  I’ve dealt with so much already.  I didn’t, “why me?” the issue.  It is what it is.  I am doing my best to stay positive, especially for my youngest; the only child at home.

My perspective has sharpened a bit.  I’ve jotted down some details should the worst case scenario come full circle.  Not being a stranger to cancer and what it can ultimately do, I am capable of making decisions that I don’t want to leave to family.  It’s unfair to make them have to make decisions on my behalf.

I will go through the motions.  I’ll probably be in debt trying to pay for medications, increased insurance premiums and everything else that goes with having to say, “I have cancer”.

I will not be pitied.  I will accept prayers, visits, bonding with family and friends and knowing making memories is extra special now.  I am also continuing to work on the Kathi Cares Program, which supports local cancer warriors.

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Humble

Published December 22, 2015 by lynn k scott

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Many of you know I am a Blue Star Mom.  If you are unfamiliar with what that means, it means I have a child serving (or has served) in the military. Blue Star Mothers is a national organization where local chapters meet to support each other, support our troops, their families and veterans.

I would say we’re most known for sending care packages.  However, there’s a side many people don’t see.  Blue Star Moms also address immediate issues that arise.

I had the honor of helping a military family, along with other Blue Star Moms and our community.  This family had a tragedy involving their young child.  We started a fundraiser in order to help raise airfare for the family.

I sent out a bunch of emails and shared Facebook posts and answered texts and kept in contact with our Blue Star board members.  Last night, I received a call.  A non-profit stepped up to donate the airfare money.  I was on the verge of tears.  We were going to be able to remove one stressor from this family who lost so much.

I was humbled today when I was presented with the check, was able to personally thank the man and his son for their donation and make another community contact.

Something as simple as airfare reminds me what I have to be thankful for. That by volunteering some of my free time, I can make a difference. Together with other Blue Star Moms, and our community, we are making a big difference.  We all have the ability to help someone:  lend an ear, give a hug, offer a smile, pay for someone’s coffee, volunteer, collect canned goods, etc.

In 2016, whatever is within your capabilities, I urge you to make a difference on some level.

Kathi Cares Program

Published September 25, 2015 by lynn k scott

I am officially on my way to implementing my latest veture.  If you haven’t haven’t followed along, up until now, I had come to a decision to start a new program.  I outlined it, briefly, in “A Program is Born”.

Yesterday, I created a new Facebook page, called the Kathi Cares Program.  The goal is to become a non-profit organization within two years.  I believe that will give me sufficient time to gain a following, raise the money associated with filing as a non-profit and gain a network of support to make this a reality.

My sister was always helping people.  As a teen, she would take in her friends if they had issues staying at home.  It wasn’t uncommon for my mom to have a bunch of kids at her house that weren’t hers.  When my sister became sick with breast cancer, people came out of the woodwork to help her and my family.

A local girl scout troop dropped off meals once a week, others watched her daughters while she had treatment, friends would drive her to appointments when my mother couldn’t and then there was the support from friends.

I know not everyone is lucky enough to have that type of support when they are sick.  I know the worry of making ends meet, esp. if not working because of an illness.  Government programs, while they are out there, are packaged in this brilliantly beautiful, yet strangling, red tape.

I may only be able to initially donate $100 (hopefully more) in gift cards for gas, food or buy a pre-paid Visa for household expenses, at least it will be something to put a smile on someone’s face, let them sleep a bit easier for one night or make one worry disappear, at least for a little while.  As a society, the “community” aspect is disappearing.  Growing up in a small town, I am working to bring back “being neighborly”.  It’s a shame that concept has fallen by the wayside.

As Michael Jackson once sang…

“I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change”

QOTD: Topic – Homeschool Education

Published July 22, 2015 by lynn k scott

“[Children] need more work with you (the parents), fewer toys, more service for others, less sports and amusements (which tend to put self before others), more self control, patriotism, productiveness and responsibility. In short, they need guidance along the path to self-worth as children of God. Parents and home, undiluted, usually do these things best.”  (Dorothy and Raymond Moore)

Community Rallies to Help “Shamed” 6 -year old

Published March 23, 2015 by lynn k scott

I’m sure some of you have seen this when it first happened.  A student in Oregon if frequently a few minutes late to class.  The school believes in public shaming, as others have confirmed this is standard procedure.  Now, I’m all for accountability.  Perhaps we should take a look at some facts that I temporarily omitted.

  • The student in question is a 6-year old first grader
  • He has a 3 year old sibling
  • His mother isn’t in the best health
  • The family car doesn’t always work

The school’s administration thinks segregating a small child from his class at lunch, making him sit behind a cardboard barrier and make him eat his lunch in isolation is appropriate.

Here is the link so you can read about it and see this child being held accountable for something that’s completely out of his control.

Student Shaming in Redwood, Oregon

I was outraged as the next parent.  I would have definitely lost more than my cool had I walked in on this and saw my child being treated by his “educators”.

There is some good news to come out of this.  I heard about it on the radio on my commute into work.  A local radio DJ ran with the story after his mother posted her son’s punishment on Facebook.  In the outrage, the post and picture went viral. The good news is the community rallied to support this family.

They received a donation of a minivan, gas card and some oil changes.  I was so glad to hear something good came out of all that hurt.

Every day, stories like these make me grateful that I chose to home school.  With bullying running rampant in our public education system, it’s hard not to wonder about the safety of your child when they are not with you.  They are supposed to be receiving an education while at school.  They are supposed to be safe.

I will make the statement that part of the reasoning bullying is completely out of control is because of school districts like the one in Redwood, Oregon.  Why haven’t those “educators” who thought this was an acceptable form of discipline come forth to defend their asinine decision?  Are they not proud for humiliating a 6-year old child for something he couldn’t control? Where is the compassion for a mother with a medical condition that is partly responsible?  Is it because she doesn’t have a serious enough disease like cancer?  Where is the school district and it’s investigation?

Until the school districts, administrators and teachers who practice and get away with bullying children are held accountable, how do we expect them to hold the kids at school accountable for their bullying actions?  Oh wait…they don’t.  Therein lies the rub!

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