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A Musical Trip Through the Decades

Published October 15, 2017 by lynn k scott

Last night, we chose to go to Mel’s Diner for dinner.  If you’re unfamiliar with this restaurant, it’s reminiscent of a 1950s diner.  Many tables have small jukeboxes you can request songs on.  Then the songs play throughout the restaurant.  While the food is just on the average side, the atmosphere is fun.  The music played, either by patrons or the establishment, always provides good conversation topics and some memories.

I made a comment to my daughter how I received my first record player when I was 13 years old.  That I received my first record album and that’s the only one I had until I could buy more.  Her response, “what’s a record player?”   Oh!  What? Did the generation gap just come full circle?!

Break out the phone, look up, ‘record player’, and show here what I was talking about.  Then, being the homeschool mom I am, I have decided this upcoming week, we will have a musical trip through the decades.  That was after a Beatles’ song came on and she made a face and said there were better boy bands available.  Had to break it to my preteen that the Beatles were THE boy band, of that time.  She seems to forget her boy band, One Direction, wouldn’t be the teen idols they are today, without the Beatles paving the way for them.

Starting Monday, we will visit the 1950s.  Talk about the artists of that era.  Discuss issues going on during that time.  I get to “visit” Elvis again.  Ok, so I might have been born in the wrong generation.  Then we will move onto the 60s, 70s, 80s and finally the 90s; by week end.

It should be a fun way to incorporate some modern history via music.  After all, music plays such a huge role in marking important milestones in our lives and in making memories:  childhood memories, songs your parents liked (and you laughed at), first song danced to, wedding songs, songs your kids would stop crying to, break-up songs, etc.

I completely expect eye-rolling and “are we done yet” responses.  I do hope my lil miss can take away something as we dance our way through the ages.

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And the Oscar goes to….

Published March 27, 2017 by lynn k scott

If you’re a parent of a preteen or a teenager, esp. if she’s a girl, then you are probably used to theatrics on some level.  I swear to you, my 11-year old has a movie career just waiting for her to embrace.

It turns out, a friend and mom, of a preteen boy, found this app, called, “Teen Safe”.  I actually chose to go with MMGuardian Parental Control.  In essence, it turns the cell phone into a paper weight; for whatever hours you choose.  I admit it, I should be better about app searching, because I LOVE this idea.

When my daughter and husband returned home last night, I told them about this wonderful app.  Ok, I thought it was wonderful.  The look of horror on my daughter’s face summed up how great this app truly is going to be.  I suppose I took a bit too much pleasure in her thought of not being able to access her phone for a set number of hours.  To be fair, she should be sleeping when the hours are in effect anyway.

After the look of shock, she sank to her knees, called me a demon and began to contemplate the impending “lock down” of her precious phone.  Now if you recall, she currently attends a small, private, Christian school. Suddenly, she jumps up, runs out the door, but not before uttering, “May the power of Christ repel you!”

I almost busted out laughing.  I’m a demon in need of an exorcism apparently.  All for making sure she gets a good night’s sleep without cellular distraction.  After the amusement wore off, I thought to myself, “well, at least I’m getting my money’s worth (for her school)”.

All in all, I was quite proud of myself.

Yet, the Oscar goes to…

Her First Date

Published March 19, 2017 by lynn k scott

Yesterday was a big day in the life of my daughter.  In addition to it being opening weekend for the movie, “Beauty and the Beast” (which I highly recommend seeing), it was also the day my daughter had her first “date”.

You might be wondering why I would put “date” in quotation marks.  Well, it’s simple, really.  My daughter and her “boyfriend” are both 11 years old.  Yes, you read the correctly; 11 years old.

No this isn’t the days of yesteryear, no I’m not accepting her dowry just yet, so let me explain.  My daughter, better known as “the lil miss”, on social media, has known this boy for several years and they are friends.   Just a couple weeks ago, he got the nerve to ask her to be his “girlfriend”, via note.  She accepted.

Part of the reason, we, the parents are indulging this a bit more, is because, her boyfriend’s family will be PCSing (military move), across the country, in a few months’ time.  While they will keep in touch, we know not much will progress further than this “date”.

The other mom and I, who are also friends, always joked, they would be each other’s first date and they would go to the movies.  Little did we know, her son would get the courage to admit he liked my daughter, and that my daughter would reciprocate the same for him.

Seeing as they are moving, which is breaking my heart at losing another friend, I asked if they had planned on seeing Beauty and the Beast; as I was planning on taking my daughter.  We agreed that would be a good idea and give us more time to spend together before the impending move made it more difficult to have free time.

We agreed to meet for lunch, because her boyfriend originally wanted to take her out for a steak dinner.  His mom talked him into pizza.  Good thing too.  One, it’s too pricey for this type of first date and two, my daughter doesn’t like steak.  lol

Both families arrived at the pizza place.  The boy presented my daughter with a single, long-stemmed, red rose, with a yellow ribbon and a small teddy bear.  He told my daughter, he got her a rose because that’s the type of flower in the movie they would be seeing.  Insert *AWE* right here.  The young couple sat at their own table, while both sets of parents and his sister sat and had their lunch two tables away.       20170318_191547.jpg

Lunch finished and we all drove to the theater.  Let me tell you, when they anticipated, “Beauty and the Beast” being a huge hit, they weren’t wrong.  All I can say is, “Thank you, Fandango”!  We arrived over an hour early and it was still packed.  My daughter’s date was given some money so he could purchase their concession items by himself.  Luckily, I was there to give an alternative drink option to the requested slushie, as the machine was out of order.

The kids sat by themselves and the rest of the families sat together.  It was cute.  They had their space, but not even hand-holding occurred.  Everyone had a great time and some memories were made.

While I believe 11 is a bit young to date, there are dating rights of passages that inevitably will come.  We, the parents, are teaching our respective children what to expect on this highly chaperoned “date”: thoughtfulness, courtesy and respect topping the list.

After it was over, my daughter and I discussed the day.  I let her know, that while she wouldn’t be doing much of this anytime soon; esp. after they move, that this was they way she should expect to be treated for all her dates.

In a world where are kids are growing up so fast, I am more than willing to do a bit of hand-holding and overseeing certain areas of my daughter’s growth.  I don’t want her to be naive, but proper exposure is a good thing.

Dutch Bros. Coffee

Published August 24, 2016 by lynn k scott

I admit it; I love coffee.  Now, I’m not a coffee snob, however, I choose not to give my hard earned money to the “Evil Empire”.  I won’t say say them by name (because I really dislike doing that).  However, unless you live in a cave, they are the coffee company that’s literally on just about every street corner, they heat their milk too hot and it’s just a mediocre product, at best.  Ok, so I really dislike them.  Alas, I digress…

Within the last couple of years, a new coffee place has emerged, called, Dutch Bros.  I really enjoy their large, hot, caramelizer.  I don’t do cold coffee…ok, maybe I’m a smidgen of a coffee snob.

My 10-year old daughter adores going to Dutch Bros.  When I treat myself to a coffee, she is typically treated to a medium, chocolate Frost (aka a milkshake).  I should interject, there is a Dutch Bros. in the city we live in, but I typically frequent the one near my job, as it’s closer to me.  My daughter actually comes to work with me, before and after school, because her school is near my job.

That being said, a few times, I have had to sneak out to get my coffee when she has been with her friends or at school.  Dutch Bros. has a stamp card too.  Every 10 drinks, gets you a free one.

Now, I used to leave the stamp card in the center console of my pickup.  Until one weekend, we were waiting for my husband to pickup his car and she started looking at the card.  UT OH!!!  This child remembers EVERYTHING!  I swear, she’s part elephant….

I see her start counting the stamps.  As she is always with me, the stamps should be an even number.  Now, I’m in trouble.  I hear, “You went to Dutch Bros. without me?”  She sounded dejected.  I confirmed I did, out of exhaustion, one day.  That was true, I had been exhausted.  My sad child turned into a psychotic demon, who I could have sworn was foaming at the mouth and in a demonic voice bellowed, “YOU WENT TO DUTCH BROS. WITHOUT ME!!!!”

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I was in trouble.  For all you parents who have ever silently eaten a cookie or piece of candy, that you had hidden from your children, and then get busted mid-chew…I was busted like that.

It cost me a a Frosty to make it up to her.  I’m such a softie (and ok, she’s a bit spoiled too). Now the card is kept in my wallet, for I still sneak a coffee here and there.  The other day, as I was paying for our drinks, she said, “let me see that card”.  Oh boy…she’s on to me.  I laughed it off and quickly changed the subject.  I know she didn’t buy it.  It will cost me later on; of this I am sure.  She’s holding out for when she really needs to use it against me.

We do enjoy Dutch Bros. very much.  They have good products, reasonably priced and the customer service is stellar (no matter which location we’ve used).  Plus, I love my daughter’s pure joy and over-excitement at being treated to her favorite drink:  a chocolate frosty (esp. when she gets a pink straw)!

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Box It Up

Published August 23, 2016 by lynn k scott

School is in full swing, at least in our little corner of the world it is.  Since organization is the name of this school year game, I’ve purchased a little box to help make lunches more fun and convenient this year.

I stumbled across this little box known as a Bento Box.  If you’re familiar with Japanese culture at all, I’m sure you have heard of this compartmental box for meals.  This one happens to be plastic.  While, I personally, prefer glass, we are talking about a 10-year old and taking lunch to school.  I need the container to survive after all.

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As you can see there are a plethora of combinations that could be utilized.  My daughter goes through phases of what she feels like eating.  Sometimes she wants a sandwich, other times just sandwich meat, sometimes just a bit of this and that. Prior to the week beginning, I cut up different fruits, if needed, so I can refill her container each night.  This has been such a time saver!

Whether she feels like being vegetarian for the day or carnivorous, there are spaces to satisfy her appetite.  This week she is focusing on salami slices, fruit and she’s adding grape tomatoes.  One of the pics shows how hard-boiled eggs can be substituted as the protein, instead of meat slices.  Another option would be to make a garden salad or add a pasta salad by removing the compartments.  It works for young and older kids, or even adults taking their lunches to work.

When all has been decided upon, simple snap on the lid, another bonus (it stays closed), and set it in the fridge until the morning.

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 Then add to a reusable lunch bag, a small ice pack to keep it all cool and in a blink of an eye, lunch is ready to go to school with your little one.

I wish waking them up and getting them dressed was that easy!

If you like this particular bento box, you can find it here.

 

 

 

Appointments: Days Only

Published July 22, 2016 by lynn k scott

While I respect any business owner’s right to set their own hours, work when they want to work and run their business on their terms, not all parents stay at home during the day.

This is prompted by a local add I saw from a photographer, who was giving away a photo session for “tween” girls:  ages 10-12.  It was supposed to be empowering to the girls and help them see themselves in a different light.

The sessions are only held for a limited time.  However, all the sessions are only held during the day; Monday – Wednesday; no nights or weekends.  I let her know we’d have to decline, because I’d only have on Friday, during the day off (which I requested).

I received a very nice “PC” response.  “Yes, I totally understand that would be difficult! I’m a working parent as well, so my studio is open during the week…”

Ok, stop right there.  As a business owner, you are not in the same class of “working parents” as those who report to someone else.  You are your own boss, you set your hours, so please do not think you are comparing apples to apples, because that’s simply not accurate.

For my family too, weekends are family time.  However, I sit on a board for a non-profit, and sometimes my weekend schedule needs adjusting.  I think it’s equally important for young girls to see that if a woman wants/needs to work, that there are businesses who accommodate their schedules and are open during non-traditional work hours.

If the medical industry has finally started to figure this out, I think the majority of businesses can as well; or at least make an attempt to do so.  It’s just really frustrating, as a parent, that my daughter loses out on many opportunities because so many local businesses and community organizations only give priority to those parents who stay at home or are free during the day.

Did I Cave?

Published July 18, 2016 by lynn k scott

I like to consider myself an old-school parent.  I raise my kids with understanding, but don’t tolerate a lot of BS and will call them to the mat when they think they are going to get away with something.  As I only have one child left at home, I still have to temper my views with keeping up with today.

In comes the debate that plagues many of my parent friends:  when do the kids get a cell phone.  My daughter is 10.5, very mature for her age, and up to a few months ago, a snowball in hell had a better chance of not melting than she did in getting a cell phone before she was a teenager.

If you ask her, I’m the “mean” parent. I do most of the rule enforcement, handle school issues, run the household and put up with very little.  Heck, she even nicknamed me, “the funsucker”.  No lie…go ahead and laugh.  I did and thought…right on…I’m doing my job as a mom making her into a responsible kid.

Lately, my lil miss has been helping out with the dogs; getting them on and off their leashes for potty breaks, cleaning up after them, cuddling with my 3 year old pup, who thinks he’s 8 months old again.  She helps in the kitchen, does her assigned chores without much complaining, and is really a pretty good kid.

When I decided we weren’t going to homeschool and I put her in a very small, but private school, that meant, I didn’t really have sitters on hand.  Now, because school is out for 5 more (loooooong) weeks, she hangs out at my office with me.  I have some friends who take her from time to time, but she’s with me 90% of the time.  I know she gets bored.  So, she takes my phone to keep herself entertained.  I know what she’s watching and she knows I know.

That being said, I wanted my phone back.  However, it’s easier for her to be less disruptive if she can call into my private office and I can go to her versus her coming to me.  So, I told her dad we were getting her a phone.  By, “we”, I meant me.  Now, I’m still paying for my phone.  I wasn’t about to be doing the same for a 10-year old…heck no!

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Did my research and I was able to add a Go-Phone to my plan.  So for $80, she received an 8 Gig phone with a 5 megapixel camera.  It’s a Samsung and it’s not too bad, but a good “starter” phone.  However, there are several stipulations that go with this new phone.  Remember, I’m the “mean” mom.

  • She no longer gets an allowance.  She was getting $3.00/week if all her chores were completed.  Well, that’s about what her monthly phone bill will be so, I pay that.  She must continue to do all her chores.
  • She must maintain good grades.  She is a good student, but has to work for it.  She tries to slack off.  For spelling test, “I got this, Mom”.  She honestly thinks she will learn through osmosis or something.  Yup, she flunks a spelling test or doesn’t study to my satisfaction, she will lose the phone for a week at a time, so she can concentrate.
  • Lastly, attitude.  She’s a female, pre-pubescent (Lord, HELP ME!) and she’s my daughter and becoming well versed in sarcasm.  So, when the attitude goes awry, her phone goes away.

She has to turn in the phone every evening before going to bed.  Her phone stays with my phone.  There will be no staying up playing games, when she should be sleeping.  I think this will enhance her responsibility.  Oh, and this was the way I got out of thinking about her having a hamster.  That alone was worth the $80, if you ask me.

So did I cave?  Naw….I don’t think I did.  I think getting your child a cell phone is really dependent upon your family dynamics and the child in question.  As their parent, you can only decide when the time is right.

 

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