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More Lil Miss-isms

Published July 26, 2018 by lynn k scott

This is from my (then) five-year old lil miss (she’s almost 13 now).

These are two separate conversations.  In the second one, her brother was on leave and spending his two weeks with us.

Lil Miss: Mommy I’m never going to get a job.
Me: How will you get money then?
Lil Miss: Have garage sales
Me: ummm smh lol

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James is brushing his teeth with the water on. The lil miss tells her brother that wasting water is wrong.

I tell her, “it’s ok”. She tells him, “James…Mommy said you are wasting water and it’s not ok.”

Umm….no Mommy didn’t LOL

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I Need A Beer

Published July 11, 2018 by lynn k scott

This conversation took place six years ago.  I can’t imagine what teen years are going to be like when my daughter was only 6 when she said this….

Lil Miss:  Walks in and says, “I need a beer.”
Me: Raises eyebrow
Lil Miss: “Oh…for Daddy.”
Me:  Lmao…sounded so odd..considering she told me earlier she was done being a goody-goody and was going to be a baddy-baddy from now on.

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Parenting Styles

Published June 14, 2018 by lynn k scott

I was listening to K-Love, my favorite Christian radio station, on my way to work, when they brought up a new study.  “Experts” are saying that the authoritative parenting style should be replaced with parents who negotiate with their child(ren).

I was relieved to hear callers to the station completely disagreeing.  One caller even said, “parenting is directing children and negotiations are for hostages”.  I thought that was brilliant.  The woman happened to be a school teacher and expressed how she let her students know their future bosses wouldn’t tolerate them wanting to negotiate everything they were told to do.

It’s not surprising the “experts” are spouting this nonsense.  In today’s world, where even the youngest child gets a say, feelings can’t be hurt, high school students dictate what they will and won’t do, and college students are causing chaos, it’s a sign the authoritative parenting style has fallen by the wayside.

While I my tween daughter and I discuss issues as they arise, there are certain instances when she is to do as she is told; when she’s told to do it.  My house isn’t a democracy; I am in charge.  Kids are still learning how to become productive members of society.  they don’t have all the answers to make informed decisions on their own.  I don’t want to get up and go to work everyday, but I do.  I don’t always agree with my boss, but I still complete the assigned work.  When I was in college, I did the assignments that the professors handed out, because they were in charge during class time.

Our job as parents is to show our children right from wrong.  Everything they do is not up for debate.  It’s ok to tell a child “no”.  In fact, they need to hear it.  It’s ok to put limits on who they hang out with, that they have to tell you where they are going, to monitor their schoolwork and to listen to you without backtalk and/or arguing.  Boundaries are important and it’s something that must be instilled in every child or they morph into today’s “entitled” adults.

Don’t get me wrong, the older a child gets, there is room for them to have more discussions with you.  If they have a valid point, that might influence or change your decision, then by all means, do so.  But there comes a point when they just need to accept the fact they need to follow instructions and they will not get their way.

So, excuse me experts, there is nothing wrong with the authoritarian parenting style.  Perhaps if more parents were committed to teaching proper behavior, that not everyone can be a winner and respect for their fellow man/woman, then we wouldn’t have young adults needing safe spaces or acting like a spoiled toddler throwing hissy fits on their college campus because their feelings were hurt because they heard something they didn’t agree with.  Today’s entitled kids are products of a non-authoritarian environment.  I’m not an expert, by an means, but I sure as hell will not have my daughter turning out like the majority of today’s teens and 20-somethings.

 

And the Oscar goes to (repost)

Published June 6, 2018 by lynn k scott

I created this post, “And the Oscar Goes To…” a little over a year ago.  I felt like sharing it with all the parents of teens (and tweens).  We’ve got to support each other.  So unless you’ve been “repelled”, you’re doing a good job with your kids and their cell phone.

Enjoy!

 

 

 

Adult Children

Published June 2, 2018 by lynn k scott

I’m a mom to five kids. Four of them are 21+. Two of them have kids of their own. They are from my first marriage. Their father was extremely abusive and our separation/divorce was less than amicable. For years, my children and I didn’t speak often; if at all. One of my sons still refuses to speak to me. I pray that will one day change. I cannot control his emotions or feelings; but everything happens for a reason.

On the flip side, I have a pretty good relationship with my oldest. My youngest son and I have reconnected and are building a great relationship. My oldest daughter still lives with her dad, so we only speak via email, because her father and I have nothing to do with each other; ever.

I can’t begin to describe how I love receiving texts from my oldest telling me how is day is going. Showing me pictures of mulching a flower bed. He sends me pics of my granddaughter in various aspects of her world. Heck, he even surprised me last year by showing up, with his family in tow, and stayed for three weeks. If you don’t have grandchildren yet, holding your grandchild for the first time is a feeling beyond expression.

No matter how old your kids get, they will always be your babies. They will already pull on your heart strings. Sometimes it hurts to hear (or see) the pain life can cause them. Sometimes just being a sounding board is all you can do. While it sucks to feel helpless, it’s comforting you have reached the stage where they want to include you in their lives again.

So, if your parents are still alive (sadly, mine aren’t), give them a call; even if it’s just to say ‘hi’. Send them a text. Until you have grown children of your own, you have no idea how those simple acts will be cherished.

Dutch Bros. Coffee

Published December 1, 2017 by lynn k scott

I make my own coffee every morning.  There are days I like to treat myself.  Being in Northern California, there is an amazing coffee company called Dutch Bros.  If you’ve never heard of them, or worse yet, haven’t tried their coffee, you’re truly missing out!

There is a Dutch Bros. near my office (about 5 minutes away).  What sets this coffee stand apart from the (self-dubbed), ‘Evil Empire (the coffee joint that must not be name – but has a celestial sign + a word meaning money), is it’s product and staff.

While, you can’t go inside, sit down at a table and suck up free Wi-Fi, you can order at the walk-up window or pull up to one of two drive-thrus.   There you can order an assortment of coffees, teas and blended drinks.

As a coffee purist (also self-dubbed), if you’re among the few people who don’t need coffee for survival, please wait to order your blended, non-caffeinated drinks til after 9:00 a.m.  Those of use who need that hot cup of coffee thank you in advance.  Sorry…I digressed there for a moment.

Anywho…with the chemo meds zapping every bit of energy I have and continuing to work full-time, I have been relying on lots of caffeine boosts from Dutch Bros.  Since it’s the Christmas season, the Caramel Eggnog latte is my favorite.  Add a bit of whipped cream and a sprinkle of cinnamon and you’re in eggnog heaven.

If I can’t get my eggnog, I go for a Carmelizer or 9-1-1.  The days that I am completely exhausted, are my 9-1-1 days.  Who couldn’t use 6 shots of espresso?  Calm down…it’s not that bad…everyone knows espresso has the least amount of caffeine.  Six shots is just the right amount of extra boost.

I would say 99% of my Dutch Bros experience comes from the Dixon, CA location.  When I’m not at work, I will occasionally stop by the Fairfield, CA location.  Soon, Vacaville, CA will have a location open.  Can’t wait!!!!

Don’t forget to get a stamp card.  Every 10 purchases gets you a free drink!  If you buy a reusable cup (I have 3) from them, you get a free drink.  It also saves you $0.25 on each purchase when you bring the cup in. wp-1472070865046.jpg

When my 11-year old daughter would commute with me, I would have to hide my stamp card.  She would count the card to see if there was an odd number or see if it was almost filled when she knew it should be almost empty.  Why was she checking?  She wanted to know when I got the yummy Dutch Bros. treat and she didn’t.  If she caught me, I would have to take her to get her Chocolate Frost.  I stopped letting her look at the card; she was costing me a fortune.  LOL

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She found out I got DB without her.

I will gladly take Dutch Bros. gift cards for all birthdays, holidays and thank-yous.  Honestly, I can’t thank them enough because they are a beacon of good coffee, pleasant employees and fun during my cancer journey.

Recently, we were able to get a Dutch Bros. ornament with the purchase of a large, hot beverage.  Well, obviously that meant we needed make a stop and have one of these ornaments for our tree.  Who could resist a deal like that, right?

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How can you not like a place like this.  Seriously, try out Dutch Bros. if they are anywhere near you.  I have yet to meet anyone who doesn’t appreciate the energy this company offers along with some pretty good coffee.

A Musical Trip Through the Decades

Published October 15, 2017 by lynn k scott

Last night, we chose to go to Mel’s Diner for dinner.  If you’re unfamiliar with this restaurant, it’s reminiscent of a 1950s diner.  Many tables have small jukeboxes you can request songs on.  Then the songs play throughout the restaurant.  While the food is just on the average side, the atmosphere is fun.  The music played, either by patrons or the establishment, always provides good conversation topics and some memories.

I made a comment to my daughter how I received my first record player when I was 13 years old.  That I received my first record album and that’s the only one I had until I could buy more.  Her response, “what’s a record player?”   Oh!  What? Did the generation gap just come full circle?!

Break out the phone, look up, ‘record player’, and show here what I was talking about.  Then, being the homeschool mom I am, I have decided this upcoming week, we will have a musical trip through the decades.  That was after a Beatles’ song came on and she made a face and said there were better boy bands available.  Had to break it to my preteen that the Beatles were THE boy band, of that time.  She seems to forget her boy band, One Direction, wouldn’t be the teen idols they are today, without the Beatles paving the way for them.

Starting Monday, we will visit the 1950s.  Talk about the artists of that era.  Discuss issues going on during that time.  I get to “visit” Elvis again.  Ok, so I might have been born in the wrong generation.  Then we will move onto the 60s, 70s, 80s and finally the 90s; by week end.

It should be a fun way to incorporate some modern history via music.  After all, music plays such a huge role in marking important milestones in our lives and in making memories:  childhood memories, songs your parents liked (and you laughed at), first song danced to, wedding songs, songs your kids would stop crying to, break-up songs, etc.

I completely expect eye-rolling and “are we done yet” responses.  I do hope my lil miss can take away something as we dance our way through the ages.

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