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Who Can I Trigger?

Published February 16, 2018 by lynn k scott

Trigger, that’s not a word I usually use.  Why?  I feel it’s a word for the younger generation.  I don’t care if you a Generation X, Y, Z or Millennial.  Your character speaks more than the year you were born.  That being said, this blog will probably “trigger” a few of the younger and less conservative followers.  If you don’t follow this blog or know me personally (and some people do), then you should know one of my favorite sayings is, “I’m not a bakery and I don’t sugar coat what needs saying”.  So in the infamous words of Graham Allen….”Heeeeere we go!”

I consider myself an ‘old-school’ mom.  I am the mother of five children; with one child under 18-years old.  I am not a perfect mom.  I made A LOT of mistakes with my older children (another story; another time).  However, I am hell bent on correcting some of those past mistakes with my youngest daughter.

I live in California.  It would be an AMAZING state if not for all the liberals and illegals (not undocumented – ILLEGAL) that are here.  I don’t placate the “entitled ideology” that far to many young adults and their children seem to have.  I have conservative values but also feel I help those in need when I can.

That being said, my take on parenting:  You are NOT there to be a friend to your child.  You are the PARENT!  Rules and accountability are first and foremost. If you think your child is your BFF, he/she is NOT!  They are a child in need of guidance, enforced rules, etc.  That friend you are looking for will be there when adulthood is reached.  For now, focus on raising good kids.  “NO” is not a four-letter word and your kids need to hear it.

I love my daughter with all my heart.  She is spoiled rotten; I admit this.  However, there is a point where she knows what is right and wrong.  Is she allowed to do whatever she wants, whenever she feels like it?  HECK NO!  She is given chores that are to be completed. She used to get an allowance.  When she got a phone, the monthly amount equaled her allowance, no more allowance.  The phone is routinely checked and no downloads without consent.  She gets called out when she gets too sassy.  Respect is a key role to raising kids.  She has manners:  Yes, please.  No, thank you.  Excuse me, ma’am.  She is being raised as a child of Christ.  Ooooh, I went there:  religion.  Yup, I sure did.  I honestly believe, if more people had God in their lives, this world would be a much better place.

I have rarely spanked my youngest.  Why, because rules were set early and more importantly, they were enforced.  My daughter in on the verge of becoming a teenager.  While her hormones are kicking in and sometimes she gets called out a bit more on her at-home behavior, I don’t foresee her being one of “typical teens”.  If she ever went that route, my house would be spotless, because nothing makes you think more about what you’ve done than a few good hours of manual labor.  Has it come to that?  Not even close.  Is it an option (if need be); you bet it is!

Is she allowed to wear make-up?  Nope.  She gets to wait til she is 15.  I allow lip gloss and that’s it for now.  Why?  She’s 12!  She doesn’t need makeup.  A cashier at Ulta even said, “maybe next year she can add mascara”.  Sorry, not happening.  There’s no reason to push her to become older than she is.

Is she allowed to wear ripped jeans, shirts that show cleavage, run around unsupervised with her friends?  Nope!  She may not dress ultra-conservative (she’s not going to a nunnery after all), but she knows what is appropriate.  Has she ever tried to get to get away with pushing the clothing envelope?  Of course.  Then, I tell her to go back upstairs and change.  You know what?  She does.  Why, because she has been taught to listen.  Silly me.  I know the parents of her friends.  Sleepover or movie outing?  I speak with the other parents to make sure we are on the same page.  Get involved!  It’s what you should be doing.

My daughter is also at the age we can cover social topics.  What is appropriate for certain situations.  What would would be the consequences for acting like a fool in public?  Or blowing a potential job interview because your friends or mall time is more important?  How about wanting excess clothing or shoes?  I am proud she gives the appropriate responses.

We have covered race, in a variety of instances.  She’s a bi-racial child who isn’t allowed to use that as a reason something did/did not happen.  There are far too many successful, minority people, to let race stand in their way.  I am proud to say, my daughter doesn’t see color.  She will be anyone’s friend as long as they are respectful and are willing to chat.  Her cultural heritage is important; but she’s an American first.

Oh yea, and we say the Pledge of Allegiance in our home too.  We stand, quietly, with hand over our heart, anytime we hear the National Anthem.  We support the 2nd Amendment. My daughter will be visiting a gun range soon to learn weapon safety and how to shoot.  Take a guess at what I think about gun reform.  I may not own any weapons (currently), but I sure as heck could care less what over-paid, non-working, liberal Democrats think “we the people” are entitled to.

Do you know, my daughter already has the mentality that she will need to get a job, as a teen, to pay for the extras she deems important to her?  Do you know, she’s not dreading that? Why?  She has been taught from an early age:  you work for what you want.  Nothing is given to you and further more, you shouldn’t expect it would be.

I don’t care what someone’s education is.  You work hard and you make progress.  If it’s not within your means, you don’t get to have it.  I wish more people would understand this concept.

So my mini-rant about spoiled, self-centered, entitled parents/children is over.  I believe this country needs to get back to a Christian-based, conservative way of life.  Respect, a hard work ethic and caring for your community and country is needed.  If you are upset about this post, perhaps you might want to re-evaluate why you are now “triggered”.



“Long Black Train”

Published January 14, 2016 by lynn k scott

I’ve decided, I’m going to post some of my favorite music videos and why I like them.  My taste in music varies greatly.  I like some Heavy Metal, Pop, Rock, Country, Native American, etc.  We won’t discuss it will also give me daily writing material.  That’s besides the point.

Music has played such an integral part in my life.  It’s been there when I have truly been alone.  It’s tied me to more memories, good and bad, than I can count and there’s nothing better than getting in the car, turning up the volume and just driving.

Over the last decade or so, I’ve come to appreciate and like Country music.  My mom loved country music when I was growing up. Country music, gives me a genuine feeling.  There’s just an honesty behind a lot a Country songs; situations that people can relate to.  We’ll start with Josh Turner’s, “Long Black Train“. If you haven’t heard it before, click the link and see what you think.

Besides the obvious metaphorical references to the song, this is the first Josh Turner song I ever heard.  It immediately reminded me of Country songs from the 1980s.  My mother’s favorite band back then was, The Oakridge Boys.  They were a gospel quartet and Richard Sterben sang bass.   Now don’t confuse that with ‘Daddy sang bass’.  I know, I dated myself with that reference.  Some of you are probably scratching your head and going, “Huh”???

Josh just reminded me of Richard was all.  He was also easy on the eyes.  Anyway, this song gave me comfort every time I used to listen to it.  I’ve chosen the wrong path many times throughout my life.  I’ve made some horrible decisions.  Yet, I’m still here and trying to make up for those bad choices.

For me, I also like that the song can reference God and still make it to mainstream radio and not have everyone so PC as to be judgmental about the lyrics.  I won’t be opting to ride the Long Black Train any time soon.  There’s still too much I have left to do.  Years ago, I don’t know if I could have said that, but time changes perspectives and outlooks.

I’d love to hear your perspective on the music links.  If you know this song or have just listened to it for the first time, what are your thoughts?

Animated Walker

Published March 30, 2015 by lynn k scott

Every Sunday evening, I find myself with a few hours to spare while my husband and daughter go out visiting with her Godfather.  I’ve decided to start walking again.

I download a few more songs onto my phone, grabbed the ear buds and out the door I went.  My goal was 2-3 miles.  I should note, music plays a huge part in my life.  I attach very easily to songs and I song obsess (where I listen over and over to certain songs).  I also am very familiar with certain music videos.

As I begin walking, it’s hard not to want to dance as the music flows through the tiny ear buds into my awaiting ears. Sometimes I have a hard time just walking straight as the beat moves me.  The drivers of the cars zooming past me must be shaking their heads as I walk up the street.

Every so often, I smile breaks out across my face.  My head will sway back and forth as I lip-sync to one of my selected musical gems.  I am exercising AND smiling about it?  No, I’m not insane.  I’m just embracing the moment.  I want to be healthier.  I want the next 40 pounds I lose to be because of my hard work.  I’m tired of answering the question, “how did you lose so much weight” with “because I got sick”.

The artists who kept my motivation on this particular walk was Brantley Gilbert, Bruno Mars, Pink, Billy Joel, Fun, Pistol Annies, Florida Georgia Line, and Jessie J.  The play list changes weekly.

About halfway through my walk, “Marry You” by Bruno Mars started playing.  I think I’ve watched this video probably 50+ times (at least).  I had the worst time not starting the flash dance moves in the video.  I really had to resist the urge to do the Pony or kick out my legs and clap my hands during the walk (video references).  The cars were passing me at a good clip, so I resigned to bopping my head and smiling like a teenager who was just asked out by her high school crush.

When all was said and done, I had covered 3 miles in 64 minutes.  Considering it’s been years since I had been walking consistently, I’m happy with that time.  The goal is to cut that time in half.  When I meet that goal, it will be time to try running again.

What is Customer Service?

Published March 6, 2015 by lynn k scott

What is customer service?  It’s a simple little concept that you appreciate the people that buy your goods and/or services. For example, we pay quite a large sum of money to an insurance carrier.  We have bought their goods.  (Ok, that’s almost laughable considering what I think of insurance carriers.)  Now, the carrier was nice enough to give us a dedicate representative.  That is so much better than the “team” approach which rarely results in any customer service because notes are rarely updated.

Silly me calls my representative today.  I have 5 invoices to authorize payment on.  Some have HUGE credits.  I can’t balance how they applied the funds to what I have listed.  All I wanted was the amount they received and how it was applied. Three calls and 8 hours later we have discovered:

  • She misunderstood what I wanted
  • With her misunderstanding, I wasn’t going to get what I needed today
  • Knowing I wasn’t getting the information I needed today, she fails to relay that information
  • I reiterate what I’m looking for (call #2)
  • She sends a spreadsheet WITH THE SAME INFORMATION I ALREADY HAVE and I found an error in her information, which she acknowledged was incorrect
  • Clearly she still didn’t understand what I needed
  • Now it’s been escalated to the finance department
  • I knew that’s who I needed to speak with because I clearly stated what I needed

This is an example of bad customer service.  Don’t provide bad customer service.  Just listen and ask for clarification if you’re unsure.  Otherwise I sit in my office, with my door (you know who this is directed at lol) and swear about poor customer service.

It’s Friday and there’s a drink in my future in about 60 minutes…just saying!

Luke 23:43 Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

Photo by Matthew C Seufer - Oak Grove Baptist Church- Elgin,South Carolina USA June 10,2013 (Page 14 in the Inspirational book "Windows From Heaven")


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