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Angelversary: 6 years

Published June 12, 2018 by lynn k scott

Today marks the 6th angelversary of the loss of my younger sister, Kathi.  This blog was created to honor her memory.  It was also created as my therapy to cope with my survivor’s guilt.  It’s hard losing a sibling, especially one that’s younger than you.

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Even though my eyes still leak from time to time or they turn into a fountain when memories come rushing back, I have finally found acceptance in her death.  A lot has happened in the last few years and I have grown much closer to God.

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I can’t begin to understand why she was called Home at the tender age of 37.  I don’t know why her children had to grow up without a mother.  Those questions will remain a mystery as I have stopped looking for an answer.  What will be, will be.

I do know life is precious.  It’s easily wasted with arguments, fights and alienation of family and friends.  Be there for those who need you.  Express affection sooner than later.  We need to live for today, because as life has taught me, no one gets an extension when your time is up.

It’s ok to grieve.  It’s ok to take as much time as you need to process a loss.  I will never get over losing my sister.  However, I can remember her spirit and know she will always be watching over me.  I can continue projects she found important.  I can get the Kathi’s Cares Program into non-profit status so I can show other cancer patients they are not alone.  Cancer, in all forms, is a horrible disease.  It’s time to find a cure and let doctors and pharmaceutical companies know our lives are not for profit.  cancer

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“Lights Shine Bright”

Published April 30, 2018 by lynn k scott

I know this music isn’t super new, but to me it is.  I’m having fun discovering new, contemporary, Christian music.  I was “introduced” to Toby Mac when my daughter attended a Christian school.

Growing up in the United Methodist Church, we sung the typical hymns.  It wasn’t until my daughter attended the school was I introduced to some amazing Christian songs.  I recently stumbled upon “Lights Shine Bright“, by Toby Mac.  This song has such an uplifting beat and a great message.  I have added meeting Toby Mac to my bucket list.  Gotta have dreams; right?

I admit, I’m currently “song obsessing” on “Lights Shine Bright”; so much so my daughter has asked me to pick another song to listen to.  NOPE!  LOL

Music has affected every aspect of my life.  It holds my memories, controls my moods, reminds me of those who care about me and reaffirms my faith.  From Rock ‘n Roll, to Country, to R&B to Christian, music keeps me grounded.

Lately, I primarily listen to Christian music and I love it.  There are so many artists that share their gift of music.  I plan on sharing more of the (Christian) songs that I am currently enjoying.

Disclaimer:  I do not own any rights to the songs and/or videos.   I am sharing them for entertainment purposes only.

Air Fryer XL

Published April 20, 2018 by lynn k scott

A few weeks ago, I treated myself to an air fryer.  I have been wanting one for over a year.  Kohl’s was having them on sale.  I received an additional 30% off by using my Kohl’s card and even received $10 in Kohl’s cash.  When all was said and done, I purchased this beauty at a great deal!    air fryer

I have used it a few times now and have yet to be disappointed.

If you follow my blog, you know I am a devoted mom to my now 12-year old daughter and my husband is Filipino.  That being said, I make sure my daughter understands her heritage, even though she is American.

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Last night, she learned the art of rolling lumpia.

Now, she had me cracking up; had to tell you.  She is methodical in her “rolling”.  There was a distinct difference in our technique.  My looked like traditional lumpia rolls.  Hers…well, they looked like perfectly little packages.  They were a tad flatter and looked exactly like a perfect package.  It was ADORABLE.  She was so proud of herself (as was I).

 20180419_190001.jpg   She’ll improve her technique.  Yet, we had another cooking bonding moment.  As homeschoolers, life skills are at the top of the list.  It’s great to have knowledge of history, able to do math, know some science, etc., but if she can’t function on her own, then I failed as a parent.  I do not have to worry where cooking is concerned.

As my daughter got into her rolling groove, she would start humming.  I’ve caught her doing this before.  She is very content in the kitchen, even if she says she wants to be a vet and take care of animals.  It’s nice to see her so relaxed when she’s preparing food whether it’s for herself or for a family dinner.

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Now, as far as the air fryer goes it makes perfect lumpia!  No frying, but all the crispy goodness that should be there when you bite into the perfect little roll.  I cook mine in a single layer (about 6 or 7 at a time).  I set the machine to 390 degrees and each batch took 10 minutes to cook.  I would flip each lumpia at the halfway mark.  You will need to cook in batches, but they are very hot when they come out of the air fryer, so they will still be warm when you go to eat them.

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Anyone who’s ever fried lumpia on the stove knows your house smells of cooked oil for days after making batch after batch of lumpia.  Using the air fryer, you only smell your food.  Not to mention, how much healthier this option is.  You lose nothing by using the air fryer over traditional oil.  Well, maybe you’ll lose a few pounds…but that’s a good thing, right?

Movie Review: Justice League

Published November 22, 2017 by lynn k scott

Let me premise this review with I am not a comic-reading individual.  My knowledge of the Justice League characters come from Saturday morning cartoons (35+ years ago) and various movies that I have seen over the years.

That being said, last night I took my 11-year old daughter to see the Justice League movie.  It wasn’t a movie I would have gone to on my own.  I’ve never been a comic book fan or even cared about the different aspects of the progression of say, Superman or Batman.

Without having multiple backstories, character knowledge or development, we enjoyed the movie.  I won’t go into too many details, as I won’t be a spoiler to those who have yet to see the movie.

I would actually give the movie 4 out of 5 stars.  Hold your horses comic lovers.  My rating is based on the following criteria:  My 11-year old LOVED the movie, there was humor and lots of action.  The special effects were well done (imo).  There was even a point, some aspects of the special effects reminded me of a comic book.

The Flash was a socially-awkward teenager, who brought hilarity to his role.  His facial expressions and comments really added some great humor.

Wonder Woman was my daughter’s favorite.  There was a scene with the Amazon’s fighting the villain, and my daughter leaned over to whisper, “Those are my kind of women”.  Ok, so fictional women of great strength and capabilities empowered my daughter to where she could appreciate them; I’ll take that as a win.

My favorite was Aquaman.  Considering my only previous reference to him was a cartoon, he was given a major “upgrade”.  A buffed, tattooed, long-haired Atlantean, played by Jason Momoa, was what got me through this movie!  I’m not sure why it wasn’t called, “Aquaman & Friends”.  I digress…back to the review….

Cyborg, Superman and Batman were ok; nothing special to report on them.

The reason the movie didn’t get 5 stars, was it did drag a bit; even with all the action-filled comedy.  The other reason was, Ben Affleck is a believable Bruce Wayne, but he really isn’t a good Batman.  I was never a fan of all the Batman movies and the endless, changing Batmans.  I saw the first Batman, with Michael Keaton, and that’s good enough for me.  There’s just no pizzazz.  If it wasn’t for the Justice League having Batman in the comics and whatever rivalry there was between him and Superman, the movie could probably exist without him.

The other minor issue I had was Diane Lane as Superman’s mother.  She’s a good actress, and even though she’s aged to where she could play the part of a mom, she’ll always be, ‘Cherry Vance’, from the “Outsiders”.  I know most of this movie’s demographic, has no idea of “The Outsiders, primarily because it was made before they were born, but it was a small distraction to me.

Overall, it was enjoyable.  The storyline they used was acceptable, to non-comic following fans.  Add the the fact we paid less than $8.00 for two tickets, with AT&T’s, “Bring a Friend” Tuesdays, the popcorn was 50% off, we had a nice night for a mother and daughter making memories over Marvel’s, Justice League.

Homeschooling: Life Skills

Published October 12, 2017 by lynn k scott

This year, our homeschooling journey has landed in the 6th grade.  In addition to my daughter learning how to take detailed notes, beginning to independent research, math, grammar, science, etc., she participates in Life Skills.

If we were in a brick and mortar school, the skills she is learning might be classified as home economics.  However, it’s more than just that.  She is learning to make grocery shopping lists, assisting with pet care, cooking for herself as well as her family, doing laundry, etc.

In our home, my husband doesn’t cook.  It’s a fact; he doesn’t know how.  I, on the other hand, have a catering and hospitality background, so I am passing my cooking and baking knowledge to her.chicken adobo

Since school began in August, she has learned to and can make grilled cheese, fried hot dogs, fried eggs, chicken adobo with rice and ramen.  She has been exposed to making pot roast, pan-seared pork chops (finished in the oven) and baked chicken and chicken wings.

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Now, to be be fair, the chicken adobo and rice shown are actually for a church event, but it’s the same food she proudly makes for her family ever week now.  She won’t even let me make it any more and gives ME tips on what I should be doing in the kitchen.  If she only knew, I’ve been at this about 30+ years longer than her.  It’s a cute sentiment though.

In addition on learning important cooking skills, when she has to follow a recipe and using measuring cups and/or spoons, she is reinforcing her fractions.

Lastly, spending time in the kitchen will create memories that one day, she will remember as she stands in her kitchen, showing her children, what I taught her.  Life skills….so important….not just in a technical sense.

Take a Moment; Make a Memory

Published July 12, 2017 by lynn k scott

I found myself, on two separate occasions, talking about memories.  The first time I mentioned memories was on a Facebook link that was in response to a woman who said she was glad women had evolved and didn’t do things like grind their own meat or coffee, can food, prepare homemade meals, etc.

I was mildly offended by that.  While I was born in the early 70s, I take great pride in working a full time job, coming home to cook a homemade dinner (six to seven nights a week), and sitting at the table, with my family, to enjoy it.

I still hang clothes out on the line and I can a lot of different foods throughout the year. To me, I am making memories with my daughter.  Years from now, she will see a jar of preserves and think of my “armageddon shelf” that was always stocked with a variety of jams, soups, stock and vegetables.

Tonight, I was speaking with my Pastor and I used that exact example.  It got me to thinking, “that’s a blog post”.  All to often, especially in today’s society, it’s a “now” or “me” mindset.  While I am guilty of having the same thought pattern on occasion, I don’t seem to do it as often as some people.

It takes hours to make bread from scratch.  I enjoy mixing some flour, yeast and water and getting bread when all is said and done.  I teach my daughter how to measure, mix and make food from ingredients instead of a box.

She and I will go for a walk in a local park.  We might stop and watch the dogs play in the dog park.  We will hunt for pinecones for crafting projects.  Finding a bench and listening to the birds’ melodies as they communicate with each other.

So, I encourage you to spend quality time with those who matter most.  It doesn’t have to cost you anything.  Go to the beach, sit on the sand together and watch the waves crash against the shoreline.  Spend time in the kitchen making culinary creations.  Go to sporting events.  Rock your child in chair.  Go the library and cultivate a love for reading.

When I am finally called Home, I want my family to have memories that will make them smile when they think of me.  That they will feel the love I had for them, when I can no longer physically wrap my arms around them to offer comfort.  Now is the time to take a moment and make a memory.

Changing Perspective

Published August 16, 2016 by lynn k scott

It’s an eye-opening experience when you take a moment to evaluate what you want from life.  Over the last few years, my life has changed more than I would have ever imagined.  I know life isn’t fair, bad things happen to good people, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, it will get better….yada yada yada.

At this point in my life, my youngest daughter is everything to me.  She’s the one who’s still at home with me and my world revolves around her.  When I was transitioning my daughter from homeschooling to small, private school, I checked with my boss, who said I could bring her to the office before and after school.

She is a good kid, sits and watches tv (yes our office has that in a large break room). Doesn’t bother anyone.  She used to sit in an unoccupied office prior to that.  One of the owners said, she could watch tv; if she wanted to.

Lately, the main owner has been fixed on some issues that are not the most pressing in the company.  After 30 years of business, and eight months into the year, he wants to change things, see details that take meticulous calculations to obtain and doesn’t understand how the information is calculated.  Unfortunately, I am wrapped up in this data mess, as I administer part of what he is complaining about.

While I only lend my opinion, based on my experience, I do not make any final decisions. However, apparently, because I’m involved, I’m now “public enemy number one” in the eyes of the owner of the company.  Now, my daughter is no longer allowed to watch tv for the two hours after school, while I finish my work day.  I will add, my work has not been negatively affected with my daughter at work.  If anything, I have been working even more to quell the mighty giant who would rather slay me than listen to reason about how his business practices have brought him to the current mess we are cleaning up.  When he chooses to punish me, by taking it out on my daughter, we have a problem.

That being said, the entire situation has caused me to re-evaluate my position within the company.  While I make a decent salary, I am underpaid for all that I do.  My daughter’s education and happiness are paramount.  I realize, no matter what they claim my position is, I’m a glorified paper pusher.  I am great at my job, so I don’t let that discourage me.

Yet, through all of this, I have realized, the job I thought I would probably have for the next decade or so, isn’t the job for me.  I want to be more available for my daughter.  I want more memories of us.  I still have to make money; sadly.  My family still expects to eat, daily, with the lights on, have hot water, clothes, etc…..so I continue to work in the hostile environment of my job.

I told my friends yesterday, I want to go back to wedding planning.  I want to be my own boss.  I enjoy making people happy by working behind the scenes so their special day is full of memories that will make them smile for a lifetime to come.

I enjoy doing walk venue walk-throughs.  Making notes of what will or won’t work for a particular client, attending the wedding rehearsal, ordering dishes, making sure the banquet room tables are set just right.  That the chairs gently “kiss” the tablecloth and aren’t pushed all the way in.  I like making sure the bar is set and ready for when the guests arrive for the cocktail hour, following a timeline.  All the details that the average person doesn’t realize that have to happen to pull off a successful event; is what I enjoy doing.

Over the next year, I will work some freelance events, maybe do some day of coordination for ceremonies and work at building my business so I can work for myself, this time next year.  That’s the goal!

I am currently looking for another job that I can keep my daughter in her present school. If we have to change schools or return to homeschooling, so be it.  Her education and happiness are important and I am over pleasing a male chauvinist who views my job as a necessary evil of having to do business.

Look out Bay Area and Sacramento, a new wedding planning business is on the horizon!

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