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Pet Peeve

Published July 10, 2018 by lynn k scott

A huge pet peeve of mine is when homeschooling parents encounter parents who say they can’t homescool or couldn’t imagine spending all day.  While, these types of comments are common, what I find some homeschooling parents berate working parents.

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While I believe homeschooling could be (and should be) an option for every family, it’s doable IF the parent believes they are up for it.  However, to make snide remarks about working parents using brick and mortar schools or daycares to “justify” working so they won’t feel guilty for working because they “choose” to.

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I cannot stress enough, working parents are the only ones with the ability to assess their family’s needs.  Do I think public schools are acceptable?  Not in this day and age.  However, that is my opinion.  I also don’t care for public charter schools that offer stipends.  To me, it’s the same public education, with a bit more freedom, but parents are essentially bribed by the stipends to follow the rules by the district.  Yet, it works for many families; just not mine.

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I work choose to homeschool, while working full-time, because I believe that’s what’s best for MY family.  We complete new lessons at night, ‘homework’ is completed during the day.  We utilize weekends for completing assignments; if need be.  We also have our field trips on the weekend or I may take off a day here and there to attend special field events not offered on the weekends.

Here’s an idea:  whether you are a stay-at-home parent or a working one, you do what is best for your family.  You decide if you can live on one or two incomes.  Your values are not necessarily the same as someone else’s.  Every famly is unique.  Please be careful painting everyone with the same brush; esp. when they differ with your beliefs.  Homeschooling is challenging enough.  Last I knew, none of us were God, so save your judgement and perhaps offer support instead of criticism.

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Adult Children

Published June 2, 2018 by lynn k scott

I’m a mom to five kids. Four of them are 21+. Two of them have kids of their own. They are from my first marriage. Their father was extremely abusive and our separation/divorce was less than amicable. For years, my children and I didn’t speak often; if at all. One of my sons still refuses to speak to me. I pray that will one day change. I cannot control his emotions or feelings; but everything happens for a reason.

On the flip side, I have a pretty good relationship with my oldest. My youngest son and I have reconnected and are building a great relationship. My oldest daughter still lives with her dad, so we only speak via email, because her father and I have nothing to do with each other; ever.

I can’t begin to describe how I love receiving texts from my oldest telling me how is day is going. Showing me pictures of mulching a flower bed. He sends me pics of my granddaughter in various aspects of her world. Heck, he even surprised me last year by showing up, with his family in tow, and stayed for three weeks. If you don’t have grandchildren yet, holding your grandchild for the first time is a feeling beyond expression.

No matter how old your kids get, they will always be your babies. They will already pull on your heart strings. Sometimes it hurts to hear (or see) the pain life can cause them. Sometimes just being a sounding board is all you can do. While it sucks to feel helpless, it’s comforting you have reached the stage where they want to include you in their lives again.

So, if your parents are still alive (sadly, mine aren’t), give them a call; even if it’s just to say ‘hi’. Send them a text. Until you have grown children of your own, you have no idea how those simple acts will be cherished.

Christian Youth Group

Published May 7, 2018 by lynn k scott

Last night I attended a parents’ forum for the Christian youth group my daughter goes to.  While, we don’t attend the church the group is held at, all are welcome. Most of the parents know each other from church, but several introduced themselves to the “newbie” (aka me).

I enjoyed hearing about what my daughter and the other kids were learning about.  There was a discussion on how we can communicate with our children and keep them in the faith.  I even learned about a Bible app that can connect us, but also we can pick topics to read and discuss.  I was excited!  I now what we will be using for our Bible study next year in our homeschool.  My daughter knew of the app, but chose not to tell me as she knew I would use it for our school.

Our forum ended right when they were doing the evening meal (they feed the kids dinner each week).  It was nice to sit back and watch my daughter and her friends chatting, while eating together.  I was also able to observe other kids and their parents.

We listened to the weekly message and then one of the leaders and three of the students played and sang worship songs (that anyone could join in on).

I take pride in being actively involved in my tween’s life.  I have access to her email, review her phone regularly, am on her Bible app, and her Instagram account (set up to show off her artwork).  I monitor what little social media I allow her to have.  She knows this and it’s not an issue.  I am proud I know the parents and kids she hangs around with.  I know they are positive influences and I don’t need to worry when she is around them.

The youth group is a weekly, two-hour blessing that I am grateful my daughter can be a part of.  That is her time with other kids who follow Christ.  Such a positive, safe and wonderful place for tweens and teens to get together.

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A Musical Trip Through the Decades

Published October 15, 2017 by lynn k scott

Last night, we chose to go to Mel’s Diner for dinner.  If you’re unfamiliar with this restaurant, it’s reminiscent of a 1950s diner.  Many tables have small jukeboxes you can request songs on.  Then the songs play throughout the restaurant.  While the food is just on the average side, the atmosphere is fun.  The music played, either by patrons or the establishment, always provides good conversation topics and some memories.

I made a comment to my daughter how I received my first record player when I was 13 years old.  That I received my first record album and that’s the only one I had until I could buy more.  Her response, “what’s a record player?”   Oh!  What? Did the generation gap just come full circle?!

Break out the phone, look up, ‘record player’, and show here what I was talking about.  Then, being the homeschool mom I am, I have decided this upcoming week, we will have a musical trip through the decades.  That was after a Beatles’ song came on and she made a face and said there were better boy bands available.  Had to break it to my preteen that the Beatles were THE boy band, of that time.  She seems to forget her boy band, One Direction, wouldn’t be the teen idols they are today, without the Beatles paving the way for them.

Starting Monday, we will visit the 1950s.  Talk about the artists of that era.  Discuss issues going on during that time.  I get to “visit” Elvis again.  Ok, so I might have been born in the wrong generation.  Then we will move onto the 60s, 70s, 80s and finally the 90s; by week end.

It should be a fun way to incorporate some modern history via music.  After all, music plays such a huge role in marking important milestones in our lives and in making memories:  childhood memories, songs your parents liked (and you laughed at), first song danced to, wedding songs, songs your kids would stop crying to, break-up songs, etc.

I completely expect eye-rolling and “are we done yet” responses.  I do hope my lil miss can take away something as we dance our way through the ages.

Her first boyfriend

Published March 10, 2017 by lynn k scott

Yesterday, my daughter and I stopped by my friend’s house for a little visit after work.  Our lives will forever be changed after what transpired there.

My friend is an Air Force veteran, and her husband is still active duty Air Force.  In a few short months, they will PCS clear across the country.  I will deeply miss my friend, but onto what happened.

They have a son, just six months older than my daughter.  They met several years ago and their friendship has grown.  Her son recently “discovered” and able to admit, he likes my daughter.  This past Tuesday, he wrote her a letter, and last night, he gave it to her.  Both of them were smiling ear-to-ear.  She had to circle ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to something he had asked her…

“Do you want to be my girlfriend?”

Today his mom posted this on Facebook, as it’s a pretty special thing for us parents too; our children’s first crush (and with each other):

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Last night a sweet, scared, boy gave this beautiful girl a note and she checked “girlfriend.” Her mom and I have known for years that this day would come, but sat back and waited for them to figure it out. We will go as a group to see Beauty and the Beast, and let them sit in front of us and spend time together. I am so sad that we will have to leave this family. But I am glad that she is his first “real girlfriend.” It seems like yesterday that they were sitting on the swings playing with chickens. It has been great to watch this sweet friendship bloom into something more.

Where did the time go that she is old enough to have a crush on someone?  My baby is growing up.  This will be her first time dealing with a PCSing family.  She is a bit used to not having her Army brother around, but she hasn’t lost a close friend to a move yet.

Emails have been exchanged and phone calls are doable.  If her brother moves back to his first house in a couple years, we’ll be able to visit him and our friends at the same time, as they will be in the same state.

Life brings so many special people into our lives.  Some touch our hearts more than others.  She’ll always remember the first boy who asked her to be his girlfriend.

Appointments: Days Only

Published July 22, 2016 by lynn k scott

While I respect any business owner’s right to set their own hours, work when they want to work and run their business on their terms, not all parents stay at home during the day.

This is prompted by a local add I saw from a photographer, who was giving away a photo session for “tween” girls:  ages 10-12.  It was supposed to be empowering to the girls and help them see themselves in a different light.

The sessions are only held for a limited time.  However, all the sessions are only held during the day; Monday – Wednesday; no nights or weekends.  I let her know we’d have to decline, because I’d only have on Friday, during the day off (which I requested).

I received a very nice “PC” response.  “Yes, I totally understand that would be difficult! I’m a working parent as well, so my studio is open during the week…”

Ok, stop right there.  As a business owner, you are not in the same class of “working parents” as those who report to someone else.  You are your own boss, you set your hours, so please do not think you are comparing apples to apples, because that’s simply not accurate.

For my family too, weekends are family time.  However, I sit on a board for a non-profit, and sometimes my weekend schedule needs adjusting.  I think it’s equally important for young girls to see that if a woman wants/needs to work, that there are businesses who accommodate their schedules and are open during non-traditional work hours.

If the medical industry has finally started to figure this out, I think the majority of businesses can as well; or at least make an attempt to do so.  It’s just really frustrating, as a parent, that my daughter loses out on many opportunities because so many local businesses and community organizations only give priority to those parents who stay at home or are free during the day.

QOTD: Topic – Homeschool Education

Published July 22, 2015 by lynn k scott

“[Children] need more work with you (the parents), fewer toys, more service for others, less sports and amusements (which tend to put self before others), more self control, patriotism, productiveness and responsibility. In short, they need guidance along the path to self-worth as children of God. Parents and home, undiluted, usually do these things best.”  (Dorothy and Raymond Moore)

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