Yesterday, my daughter and I stopped by my friend’s house for a little visit after work. Our lives will forever be changed after what transpired there.
My friend is an Air Force veteran, and her husband is still active duty Air Force. In a few short months, they will PCS clear across the country. I will deeply miss my friend, but onto what happened.
They have a son, just six months older than my daughter. They met several years ago and their friendship has grown. Her son recently “discovered” and able to admit, he likes my daughter. This past Tuesday, he wrote her a letter, and last night, he gave it to her. Both of them were smiling ear-to-ear. She had to circle ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to something he had asked her…
“Do you want to be my girlfriend?”
Today his mom posted this on Facebook, as it’s a pretty special thing for us parents too; our children’s first crush (and with each other):
Last night a sweet, scared, boy gave this beautiful girl a note and she checked “girlfriend.” Her mom and I have known for years that this day would come, but sat back and waited for them to figure it out. We will go as a group to see Beauty and the Beast, and let them sit in front of us and spend time together. I am so sad that we will have to leave this family. But I am glad that she is his first “real girlfriend.” It seems like yesterday that they were sitting on the swings playing with chickens. It has been great to watch this sweet friendship bloom into something more.
Where did the time go that she is old enough to have a crush on someone? My baby is growing up. This will be her first time dealing with a PCSing family. She is a bit used to not having her Army brother around, but she hasn’t lost a close friend to a move yet.
Emails have been exchanged and phone calls are doable. If her brother moves back to his first house in a couple years, we’ll be able to visit him and our friends at the same time, as they will be in the same state.
Life brings so many special people into our lives. Some touch our hearts more than others. She’ll always remember the first boy who asked her to be his girlfriend.
While I respect any business owner’s right to set their own hours, work when they want to work and run their business on their terms, not all parents stay at home during the day.
This is prompted by a local add I saw from a photographer, who was giving away a photo session for “tween” girls: ages 10-12. It was supposed to be empowering to the girls and help them see themselves in a different light.
The sessions are only held for a limited time. However, all the sessions are only held during the day; Monday – Wednesday; no nights or weekends. I let her know we’d have to decline, because I’d only have on Friday, during the day off (which I requested).
I received a very nice “PC” response. “Yes, I totally understand that would be difficult! I’m a working parent as well, so my studio is open during the week…”
Ok, stop right there. As a business owner, you are not in the same class of “working parents” as those who report to someone else. You are your own boss, you set your hours, so please do not think you are comparing apples to apples, because that’s simply not accurate.
For my family too, weekends are family time. However, I sit on a board for a non-profit, and sometimes my weekend schedule needs adjusting. I think it’s equally important for young girls to see that if a woman wants/needs to work, that there are businesses who accommodate their schedules and are open during non-traditional work hours.
If the medical industry has finally started to figure this out, I think the majority of businesses can as well; or at least make an attempt to do so. It’s just really frustrating, as a parent, that my daughter loses out on many opportunities because so many local businesses and community organizations only give priority to those parents who stay at home or are free during the day.
“[Children] need more work with you (the parents), fewer toys, more service for others, less sports and amusements (which tend to put self before others), more self control, patriotism, productiveness and responsibility. In short, they need guidance along the path to self-worth as children of God. Parents and home, undiluted, usually do these things best.” (Dorothy and Raymond Moore)