Last night, I was browsing a local community group for my area on Facebook. Having been an admin of several groups in the past, no matter how large a group gets, there is always a handful of people who dominate the conversations, posts and threads.
Tangents are a part of the online community. One person posts something, then another person comments but adds to the original post and the thread turns into a small snowball, rolling down the side of a snowy mountain, until it has morphed into a runaway boulder that will crash into whatever is in its path at the base of that mountain.
This next portion will probably offend some. I’d apologize, but it would be fictitious because I absolutely believe this. You don’t have to agree or even like it, but it’s my perspective, my blog and there’s an unfollow option that you are free to utilize at any time.
One member posed a question, “how much are those strawberries that are for sale on the side of the road”. She gave the location and BOOM it was on! One guy commented that it was illegal and the police can cite the seller and buyer. Apparently, the one pointing out the truth of the situation, is a frequent participating member on multiple posts.
Many other members of this group rallied to the “illegals” defense because they are only trying to make money. They were telling him to “shut up” and stop being a “hater”. That’s interesting especially since the Admin had recently reposted about being respectful and no name calling. Guess this fell on blind eyes (instead of deaf ears). In fact, the Admin commented in the thread about the reposted rules and then gave them just “one more chance”. Yeah, because they know they can and will get away with this behavior.
Then the fruit-selling supporters reached to equate selling fruit was ok because they weren’t selling drugs to kids. Umm…apples to oranges people…let’s stay on track, please.
The woman who was posting rude comments was the first to claim she did nothing wrong. Clearly they are blissfully unaware (or ignorant; not sure really) and cannot understand how “shut up” is rude and calling someone a “hater” is, in fact, name-calling. Do I think the other person was offended? Probably not. However, it’s the fact the pack-like mentality exists online in in real life. Gang up and take down the person/persons who dare to offer a contrary opinion. Several people with Spanish names (not a judgement – just an observation), kept insisting those selling the fruits weren’t doing anything wrong.
I thought I’d throw my two-cents in for fun. I reiterated, just because they may not like what a particular person has to say, doesn’t make what that person says any less true. Illegals do sell fruit on the side of the road and street corners. Buying from them is illegal. The objective word is “illegal”. Meaning not allowed to legally be here in the United States (but that’s an entirely different post). Street vendors over-charge compared to what legitimate businesses charge; by a good margin too. I stated what a good group it was, but respect for one another was severely lacking.
Several people liked my comments. One supporter of the illegals offered to bake me cupcakes since I contributed. I wanted to respond unpleasantly. I chose to nicely decline her facetious response saying I’m an accomplished baker in my own right. Two can play that game.
It dawned on me why bullying is running rampant in our schools. The kids have these people as parents. They are oblivious to their poor behavior, lack of manners and pack-attack mentality. These are people in my community who think they are doing nothing wrong because they are typing on a keyboard. Their children aren’t punished for mimicking their behavior, even when it turns into real life altercations, because they find it acceptable and justifiable.
Last night, I remembered why I had terminated my Facebook account. For nonsense like this. People lack respect. I often find they are of a younger generation, not always, but often. I find myself questioning the kind of world my daughter will be forced to live in as she is not being brought up this way. She is held accountable for what she says and does.. She has manners. She considers others’ feelings.
I implore you, think about how you present yourself online and in person. Something surely needs to change. I personally am seeking out a group where behavior like that isn’t tolerated. Wish me luck.