Last night I attended a parents’ forum for the Christian youth group my daughter goes to. While, we don’t attend the church the group is held at, all are welcome. Most of the parents know each other from church, but several introduced themselves to the “newbie” (aka me).
I enjoyed hearing about what my daughter and the other kids were learning about. There was a discussion on how we can communicate with our children and keep them in the faith. I even learned about a Bible app that can connect us, but also we can pick topics to read and discuss. I was excited! I now what we will be using for our Bible study next year in our homeschool. My daughter knew of the app, but chose not to tell me as she knew I would use it for our school.
Our forum ended right when they were doing the evening meal (they feed the kids dinner each week). It was nice to sit back and watch my daughter and her friends chatting, while eating together. I was also able to observe other kids and their parents.
We listened to the weekly message and then one of the leaders and three of the students played and sang worship songs (that anyone could join in on).
I take pride in being actively involved in my tween’s life. I have access to her email, review her phone regularly, am on her Bible app, and her Instagram account (set up to show off her artwork). I monitor what little social media I allow her to have. She knows this and it’s not an issue. I am proud I know the parents and kids she hangs around with. I know they are positive influences and I don’t need to worry when she is around them.
The youth group is a weekly, two-hour blessing that I am grateful my daughter can be a part of. That is her time with other kids who follow Christ. Such a positive, safe and wonderful place for tweens and teens to get together.
It’s that time of year; if you celebrate Christmas with the exchanging of gifts. While my daughter is maturing all-too-fast, my soon-to-be 10 year old, is presenting new challenges daily.
Yesterday, I asked what she would like for Christmas. While I don’t go broke making sure Christmas morning looks like a department store exploded under the tree, I do get her a modest amount of gifts; mostly from Santa.
While she has questioned the reality of Santa, she somewhat still believes. However, ask that child to take a pic with old man from the North Pole, while window shopping at the mall and she simply responds, “That’s not the real Santa.” Sheesh! Why not kill every opportunity for your dear old mom to have photos of you as a child. Oh your teen years are going to be fun. Alas, I digress.
Back to what to buy for Christmas. I asked her again yesterday and received a new and more challenging response. Instead of the standard, “I don’t know”, she said, “Santa already knows. I mean, if he knows if I’ve been naughty or nice, then he knows what I want for Christmas. Why should I make a list?”
Think Mom! She has to give me an indication and she has to do it on her own. Have I mentioned how fun she’ll be in a few years? Moving on…
“Well, what will your father and I know what to buy you if you don’t give US some ideas?” Phew…she hadn’t thought about that. She mentions she’d like more art supplies. Well sugar! I already have started that gift. I’ll keep working on her and pulling gift suggestions out of her like a dentist pulls out a stubborn molar.
While I cherish my daughter’s youth and wanting to keep some elements of her being my little girl, it will be much easier not to be Santa in the upcoming years.